Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 5:58pm
I'm sure piano lessons really are a small issue. But when little kids hear their parents argue, the parts they REALLY hear are the parts that pertain to them. The more adult concerns being hashed out in the overheard argument will sail on by but any mention of the piano lessons will stick.

Unless you can manage a divorce without your kids EVER overhearing an argument or that BOTH of you refrain from ever using the phrase "piano lessons" in an argument. Maybe it can be done. To you these lessons are but a drop in the bucket of problems. But they have consumed years of dd's life and will be particularly angering if she gets even a wrong impression that they played a role in the divorce.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 5:59pm

17 times how many lessons a year, times how many years?

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:01pm
YES! The more I look at Everyday Mathematics, the more I want to scream. It is all fluff and no substance. It's a bunch of enrichment activities that would bave been wonderful ON TOP OF the solid basic education I got WITHOUT that solid basic education!!
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:04pm

and what the heck does piano lessons that she doesn't even like have to do with failing school?

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:04pm

1/2 my coworkers are on it, and the other half smoke like chimneys.

Mondo

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:06pm

No, he isn't willing to support her plan on pushing their daughters in a direction he doesn't want to see them go.


There is a difference.


Besides, is there REALLY such a thing as 50% of domestic chores?

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:07pm

What exactly is Everyday Mathematics?

Also, have you heard of Kumran?

Mondo

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:08pm
And it has lowered her grades. She's expected to use the counting up method to subtract or adding to simly first in school. She's not allowed to do subtraction with borrowing which is how Sylvan taught her. She was totally lost when they started telling her to add to subtract. In EDM, if you want to subtract 357 from 400, you first add say, 50 (any number that results in all of the number places in the upper number being larger than the numbers in the same number place below) to both numbers to make it 450 - 407 and then perform the subtraction. Dd just sits there and stares at the paper unable to decide what to add before she subtracts and confused as to why she's being asked to add before she subtracts. She can borrow to subtract and get the answer but that's not allowed in EDM and they ARE following the book with EDM at her school.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:08pm

It's all about you isn't it?

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:09pm
LOL

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