Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Mondo
i wouldnt say "getting in ones face" is dead wrong, as it worked for me.
My DH has a saying "You have to light a fire under me". And he's right.
Mondo
im very serious about this. im not saying im perfect, but i have been to counselors and doctors to correct my ills, however, dh has never been perfect himself. he walks around and pouts while he has absolutely no clue what i mean, want, think. even now there are times when we get "into it", and he totally does not understand me, i *make* him sit in a chair and at least hear me out until im done. if he stands up, i ask him to sit until im done. this is how he was raised. his whole family is like this. when the going gets tough dh's family runs. confrontation sometimes works wonders.
If it were hockey or another sport, I'd be even more on your case, LOL! In a case where our child was struggling academically, time-consuming extracurricular activities would not be something that we would allow, let alone mandate. In our house, she would be reading instead of practicing on a keyboard.
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How is she above average? In what way? In *every* subject? Is the above average label yours, or is that what her teachers say, too? Is it possible she really is average and, if so, would you be able to accept that?
Maybe it is. My daughter has NOTHING to do with her father....a failed relationship...ALL HIS FAULT. She has done nothing wrong. I don't know Dr Laura's relationship with her mother nor do you....nor does she ever paint herself as perfect.
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