Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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But it is broke, for many reasons that aren't related to your relationship with your dh at all. Others have told you why already.
You guess wrong. Boy, do you EVER guess wrong.
What I'm wondering is, whatever happened to compassion? While you're busy whining about how draining it is to be the less needy partner, did it not occur to you to empathize with how it must feel to be the more needy partner married to someone who not only thinks you have no business having needs but that even acknowledging them would be tantamount to slavery?
Dh will likely be able to retire at 62 1/2, when he's old enough to start drawing social security. However, that's not likely to happen given that our marriage isn't likely to survive that long.
Offer respect and choice, mostly. Most of it has to do with tone and attitude. No utimatums, EVER. No "you need to do this" direct orders. No fighting dirty and getting off topic.
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