Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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You don't have to put something into words to say it.
So, what do you need your dh for? What is he contributing to the marraige, to the family? How do you let him know that you need him?
eople ran off and told me I HAVE to have dd just quit becuase THIS is causing my divorce." Nope. No one told you that. New math and piano lessons never caused a divorce. Intrangigency, blame and disrespect cause many.
Edited 5/20/2004 8:06 am ET ET by cocoapop
In subsequent posts GK has said that the piano lessons haven't actually come up in arguments, so the child wont be in danger of hearing an argument about them. But that tutoring has come up in arguments. Whatever the dd hears in reference to herself in an argument is really going to stick. And be blamed BY THE CHILD for the divorce (even if we adults know better).
Perhaps I should clarify.
'cept, I can't divorce my kid.
Well, enlighten me; what else does a SAHM do besides those things and perhaps kids' activities (sports, dance, pta, etc). Was I wrong in assuming there was enough time for those things? I was speaking from what I've seen, what I've heard, etc. - would appreciate another view - pardon the ignorance. "snork"
Tiffany
"<< I feel that if I were a SAHM in the future, the house would be immaculate, kids have homecooked meals, and I was in tip top shape (if kids in school during the day). >>
You: Congratulations are in order. You will be the official winner of the Mommy Olympics. Get back to us when you decide to SAH....I'd LOVE to hear how well you're doing in your quest for mommy perfection. Snork."
The reason I assume a SAHM would have time to have the house clean, dinner always ready, kids appts/sports, etc - is because MY mother, who worked full-time as a school teacher still managed to do all of that with 3 girls, and do all the parent committees, etc. I have a lot to live up to, and if she could do it working then I don't see why it couldn't be done if that was your full-time job. I came here because I wanted to see what was being said on this board since I hope to work part-time or SAHM when I have children in a few yrs with my fiance.
Tiffany
IMO you are creating a problem where one does not exist. If your child needs math tutoring that's fine, get it for her. But you really don't need to do away with an entire curriculum because YOUR dd doesn't get it.
I think one of the things parents have a hard time with in EDM is that a concept is introduced and then they move to a new concept, sometimes before the kids master the old concept. Then the curriculum spirals back around and the kids get a second shot at mastering the old concept. But it's easier the second time around because the kids remember some of what they were taught before.
My 2nd grader started division as part of the EDM curriculum. He had real problems with it the first time around. Now they are back to division as a concept and he is doing much better with it. In 3rd grade they learn the fact families, how the number interact with each other. They don't introduce that to them right away, but they DO introduce it.
Your life sounds to stressful right now. Try to relieve stress. And you don't need to stress over this math program right now.
Jenna
I think some of the fustration for a few of us parents is that WE don't get the concept and it baffles us.
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