Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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I didn't explain myself very well.
A little way this or that is all most of us can hope for in terms of AVERAGE in terms of ANYTHING. And a little way this or that isn't a big life altering deal, either way of average.
Average intelligence, average looks, average athletic skills, average musical ability, average drive, average ambition is likely what your kids have and are. And they will grow up to be...for all intents and purposes...pretty average adults. You can't spend money and exert effort and create an exceptional kid out of an average kid. You can do things to help build, more or less, their ability to function as well as possible in the world given who, what and where they are. To take advantage of what their life has to offer. You can't change what they are.
Things don't get difficult until there is a chance a child will be overall and in most ways below average. Now you may have some life issues to deal with...but even then, merely not being quite mid-average is not going to make alot of difference. But if a kid is average across the board, or overall, thats about as much as most parents can hope for or expect. If your child turns out squarely average...you've won the genetic lottery. There isn't a whole lot in life you can't get from average that you CAN get from above average. WAY above average is required to see a difference, and WAY above average is born, not created. And then of course, that creates other problems. And it requires lots of "way above average" attributes for any particular "way above average" attribute to have effect anyway.
Average expressed is not genius lurking undiscovered. Its just average expressing itself.
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By your logic I should have dd drop out of school right now because her little sister is smarter than she is and I'm asking my girls to compete and setting dd#1 up for disaster by having her continue in school when her sister is, obviously, the bright one. I don't think so. Your logic doesn't work in either case.
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