Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:06pm
She doesn't even like "coming in to eat dinner?" That doesn't sound like a "lazy" kid, as you said. She doesn't want to eat dinner? She doesn't want to eat dinner as a family? She'd rather be doing something else than eat dinner?

Also, you said that she likes "doing nothing." What does "nothing" consist of?
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:07pm

I think it's something much more chilling than narcissism.


CLW is desperate for her dd to learn lessons she hasn't yet learned herself.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:26pm
Do yourself a favor and stop with the stupid passive agressive "If you criticize anything I do, you are calling me a total failure" BS.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:37pm

Sometimes, when one is very close to a situation, one's perspective becomes somewhat narrow.


You think you are right about everything, but that's not realistic. Why are you so afraid of being wrong about something?

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:38pm
Of course there is. No process is perfect, and there is always room for improvement.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:40pm

<<There is no competition between the girls. They're two grade levels apart.>>


This comment just illustrates how clueless you are. You think only twins compete?


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I think you misunderstand what is meant by competition in this context.

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:48pm

What are you so afraid of?




Edited 5/21/2004 8:50 pm ET ET by taylormomma
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:52pm

<< Do you think I berrate her about her attitude all the way to and from piano lessons or something? >>


You don't have to. AND IT'S NOT ABOUT THE FREAKING PIANO LESSONS.

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:58pm
How do you expect your dd to overcome her defeatist attitude when you haven't overcome your own?
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:05pm

<<However, we ARE seeing benefits. THAT tells me we are NOT negating them by some board imagined hatred for what she's doing.>>


It shouldn't. The fact that you can see the benefit doesn't mean it isn't being offset.


To use an analogy, think of the side effects of drugs.

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