Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:11pm

No, a child who quits at the first sign of having to actually work is a child who quits at the first sign of having to actually work.


Labels are for canned goods, not children.

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:13pm
WHAAAAA?? WHAATTTTT?

You're not willing to go the distance to help her find something she likes and excels at because YOU DOUBT SHE WILL?

Are you a QUITTER? Or are you just LAZY?

You are giving up on this girl without even TRYING? You're already convinced she can excel at nothing?

WTF is really going on here?




Edited 5/21/2004 9:15 pm ET ET by kamalo2

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:21pm
Noting in the way of things that are good for her, lol. Dd just wants to play. She does get plenty of time to play though. However, I do expect her to do her homework whether she likes it or not, and to read, and to eat a healthy dinner, and to go to bed at a reasonable hour (she doesn't like going to bed either), to go to tutoring, to attend piano class and to practice. I also expect her to clean her room and to do, gasp, CHORES. Now there's a word she REALLY doesn't like. I love my dd to pieces but I'm not going to cater to her whims any more than I would her fathers. It simply would not be good for her. Oh and she really doesn't like the fact she's grounded right now. I suppose I should do away with punishments for blatently disobeying her parents. She doesn't like that either. There are a lot of things my dd doesn't like that are good for her and I'm not going to do away with them because she doesn't like them. Some things are simply valuable for the experience.

If dd weren't capable of keeping up with her piano class, we'd find something else but she is. What she is doing is not outside of her capabilities and it benefits her. It's not even a stretch beyond her simply thinking she CAN'T when she first see's something but she is getting better here. She'd just rather not. But then again, she'd just rather not a lot of things but that doesn't mean we shouldn't do them. If she had he her way, we'd move to Florida and spend every day at the beach, lol. She does like vacations and amusement parks and staying up late.

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:26pm
Try reading some of my posts about Everyday Mathematics. Let's see, if a child performs average (C) under a curriculum that rates a C- what does she have??? Not much. Dd will need more than what she's getting at school to succeed in college later. In fact, she'll need more than she's getting in school get pass algebra! Oh, one of my other musts is my kids must take math all four years of high school. I won't bore you with the theory behind why this is imporatant for girls. You don't seem to like what the researchers have to say about things that actually benefit our kids.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:29pm
Yes, that's called having a passion. Like dd#2. Dd#1's passion is seeing how little she can get away with doing. We have an activity here that is WORKING. It's familiar to dd so she's not grappling with the fear of learning something new. I see no reason to change it. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Her music lessons are accomplishing what they were intended to accomplish and more. I see no issue and no reason to force her to start something else. Especially since dd hasn't expressed an interest in anything else.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:37pm

Try reading the post to which you are responding.


I wasn't talking about the math tutoring - I was addressing your contention that your child's performance in school was unacceptable, since she has the aptitude to perform above grade level. Since you've said the tutoring actually results in her getting lower grades, math wasn't even part of the equation.


This was

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:38pm

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Isn't it obvious? Simply count the times CLW has said "she is me".

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:41pm
She is nine.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:50pm
I don't think it is a laughing matter. Sad that you do.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:51pm
I don't think that is what Taylor is saying at all. Again, you missed it. Oh well....

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