Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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His suggestions that dd quit to ease up time aren't really suggestions she quit though. They're a round about way of trying to get me to quit one of the other activities in order to preserve one I feel strongly about. It's more of an, if you won't quit one of these than you'll have to quit piano knowing full well that ain't happening. Dh was actually in agreement with musical training and just as baffled as I am that dd has decided on another year of piano. He did think I was starting her too early (she started atprivate lessons at 3 and yamaha at 4) but when he figured out she was one of the oldest kids in her yamaha class he conceeded (like many people he thought you start kids at more like 6 or 7 when their hands develop when in reality they can learn a lot before then.). I've posted elsewhere that before I started back to school, dh did half a year as dd's piano partner because he thought I was too hard on her. He figured out his soft touch didn't work and I went back to being her partner. He no longer complains about me being too rough on her. He now realizes that sometimes that's the only way to motivate this child.
WRT her practice, our days are a mixed bag. Piano practice can be like pulling teeth or like planting flowers. It just depends on her mood. And she is moody. She started developing at the ripe old age of 7 so we're already into mood swings (and crossing our fingers menarche is a few years off). Some days practice is a pleasant experience and somedays I grind my teeth, lol. On a bad day, she plays every note wrong, deliberately. On a good day, she laughs and we have a good time with her practice. I think it's imporatant that she learns that she has to practice on good days and bad days.
And, to the board, before someone slams me for saying she's moody, knowing your children's issues is a good thing. It helps you deal with them.
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