Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:45pm
Anyone can be blindsided. Did you see it coming before your huband gave you the book? Being close to a situation doesn't automatically give you the best perspective on it.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:47pm
Of course you are not going to change! That is soooooooooooo obvious.

Doesn't sound like it is "working" from reading what you've put out here on the board.

lol all you want. Glad it is you living that reality!

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:48pm
LOL, try reading YOUR post I was responding to. You asked why average performance wasn't good enough and I told you.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:51pm
Ditto. I can't see why the book would be offensive either! (shrugging shoulders)
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:52pm
LOL, but that takes even MORE time. The issue here is time remember? No, we have an activity that is working for dd. She hasn't expressed any interest in any other activities and she won't. Dd doesn't like change so she won't suggest it. IF we did flit from activity to activity, the only way she'd stay with any one long enough do decide if she liked it or not (translation, it comes easy enough for her) would be if we made her which is a far more painful process than piano lessons. And then there's that pesky little fact that piano lessons are accomplishing everything we wanted them to and more. BTW she's already tried several activities and didn't like any of them. None of them came easily enough for her liking.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:54pm

But you haven't learned them. It comes through loud and clear in your posts. At the slightest hint of criticism, you either stick your fingers in your ears and sing "la la la la la" or start in with the "I might as well go eat worms" hysteria. You're so overwhelmed by your dh's request to show him the consideration any spouse deserves that you have to invent some scenario where he wants to completely make you over into someone else. Sweetie, if he really wanted someone else altogether, he'd be sleeping with her by now.


As somone else has already pointed out, your dd is in vastly different circumstances than you were. She is a different person and her "issues" aren't necessarily going to create difficulties for her in the same way they did for you.


There is a huge difference between helping a child cope with an issue

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:56pm
Hmmm? She's tried dance, cheerleading, chess club, martial arts, swimming classes and piano to date and she thinks she won't be allowed to try something new? Why is that? We've already let her try activities. In fact we encouraged it. I am not going to over schedule my dd and run her from activity to activity on the off chance she'll find one she'll like at this point. THAT would to her far less good than piano lessons ARE doing her. You don't seem to get that what dd doen't like are things she has to work at. ANY activity I put her into that was worth anything is going to be something she'll have to work at AND, drum roll please, SHE WON'T LIKE IT for the SAME reasons she doesn't like piano. Because she has to learn new things and practice.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 11:00pm
No dear. I wouldn't have gotten though engineering school if I had a defeatest attitude. I wouldn't have gotten into engineering school if I still had a defeatest attitude. I did nearly flunk out of high school because of my defeatest attitude. However, it can be overcome. So do tell how my defeatest attitude manifests itself in my life? Have you been reading my diary or something? You don't even know me yet you throw around accusations about things you don't even understand.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 11:00pm
Certainly not your babling, lol.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 11:01pm

No I didn't. Here, I'll quote it for you:


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Nothing in there about average performance. Nothing in there about which specific math skills your child is going to need in the future. Your post might as well have been in another thread for all the relevance it had to what I said.


I'm getting used to it though. You have been either unable or unwilling to listen to what anyone has to say in this whole thread.


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