Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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<<So do tell how my defeatest attitude manifests itself in my life?>>
It manifests right here. I've addressed it in other posts.
It would be unhealthy to think that everyone has to find something they excel at. Not everyone excels and there is nothing wrong with that. Most of the kids in dd's music class are right where she is. She can see that she's the norm. IF she sees her sister as different, and I don't think she does yet because she's still the one teaching her sister her pieces, she will realize that few kids are like her. My sister being more talented than me was not reason for me to quit piano nor is it reason for my dd to quit. It just means in a couple of years, the help will be going the other way. I learned a lot from my little sister. She does irritate me though. She got all the talent and she never plays, lol.
Too late - I already used the babbling line on you. Try to at least come up with something original. That was yesterday's line.
By the way - I'm not babbling. I have no doubt it appears that way to you, given your bizarre responses to my posts.
And once again, I DIDN'T SAY SQUAT ABOUT AVERAGE PERFORMANCE.
Do you honestly not understand the difference between "on grade level" and "average"?
My mother would love it if I would own a flute & piano after all the lessons & practices she made me do. I just did these because she forced me to do it. I hated them. I refuse to play either & I will not be teaching my dd. If she wants to learn, she will be given lessons. Not from me either!
I nixed the other things she wanted me to do.
These days. We have a non-existent relationship. When we do talk she always brings up the things I didn't do that she always insisted I do, the whole fight starts over, dinner is ruined!
Good luck. If your dd rebels one of these days you will wish you did things differently.
But I doubt you will ever admit it, that just isn't you from how you post about yourself lol
Listen to yourself.
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