Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:49am
Um, she's not defeated BECAUSE she takes piano lessons. THEY ARE not the CAUSE. Try again.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:51am
Me thinks you wouldn't know if it were flashing before your very own narrow sighted eyes.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:52am
Gee nothing like having your every choice scrutinized and condemned. What difference does the type of dance or cheerleading class have to do with anything? Now I'm being told I picked the wrong classes for her to try??? You seem to know more about our lives than we do. How is that?
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:54am
ROTFLMAO I've been told REPEATEDLY that I need to do less in order to make dh's life what he wants and now I'm lazy for not doing even more??? Talk about a no win situation. No, I am not going to overschedule dd. That would not be good be good for her. Neither would going from acivity to activity that she's doesn't excel at. She needs the kinds of successes she's getting with her piano right now. I have never told her she can't try something. She just rarely asks and when she does wants to quit as soon as she starts.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:54am
No, we all know how you are with your dh and dds. Your attitude about it here in post after post is enough.


That is probably how your dd is feeling. Put yourself in her shoes, if that is possible.

You picked. Why not let her pick. It is all for her, let her make the choice.

No, we all know how you are with your dh and dds. Your attitude about it here in post after post is enough.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:55am
One of the many scary things in this thread is the fact that you think any of this is funny.

Good luck with that.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:56am
She has to excel with you, eh? She can't just be on a cheerleading squad & have fun with the girls? She can't just go to swim with friends, drink lemonade, chat about what 9 yr olds want to chat about? She can't just go to dance because she likes dance? She has to excel at everything?

You & my mother should meet, I was hoping there was only one of her, ugh!

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:57am
Do tell what I should have dd doing? How many days a week should I run her to new activities so she can find the one she likes? I am not going to run this kid ragged. I've said repeatedly she'd rather play in the back yard. SHE has no interest in having even more activities she has to go to. The ones she's in are working. And I'm the one with the problem??? ROTFLMAO I don't think so.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:57am
I feel sorry, so sorry for her dd. And her dh!
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:58am
Nope, not even close. The problem is neither you or TM know my dd. You might want to meet her and I before making dianosis.

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