Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Doing things you don't like is not synonomous with having a horrible life. So dd doesn't like to spend 20 minutes practicing. How does this color the rest of her life? Like it or not, some things that are good for us aren't things we're chomping at the bit to do, but you do them anyway. What would you propose I do about the fact my dd doesn't like going to school or doing homework? Let her pick an activity she likes, LOL. I don't think so. The benetif of an activity isn't always it's enjoyment level. And doing one activity you don't like doesn't mean your whole life is unhappy. It means you're not at your happiest while you're doing that activity.
Yes, I can see where that flute & piano has been so beneficial! Not!
My brother uses those violin & piano lessons to run 3 restaurants daily with those 3 semesters of college that he didn't go to class half the time also.
My sister doesn't use her three music lessons she was forced to take all those years & she didn't go to college but yet is a successful career woman!
I might would put in some tomato plants & use the flute as a stick but that is it!
Trust me. I had a mother like you. I know what your dd is living thru!
My whole childhood was bleak from being forced to do two musical lessons, participate in team sports, excel, excel, excel in studies. I won. I got out at 18 and have been happier than I could ever imagine being and so did my my sister & brother, we all won, lucky for us! Mom lost.....she lost big time! She knows it!
You can have dh. He'll be getting his papers in the next week or so.
I was cooking fine dinners from hard recipes before I accomplished either!
I had the creativity gene without needing the musical attributes.
I do use my foreign french language to read recipes, comes in handy. Only thing I use it for.
There was no personal accomplishment on either instrument. In fact, I can't play twinkle twinkle little star on either. I went to practices, I went to lessons, I just refused to do it. I may could still play mary had a little lamb. Although, I highly doubt it, I left that behind with my mom on my wedding day!
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