Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Sorry, I'll settle for what is working and leave my dd time to play in mud puddles in the back yard.
You are not getting that what we are doing is working. You are not getting that enjoyment is not the determinant of the value of an activity. Dd would rather stay home and watch cartoons than go to school ,however, she's going for the same reason she's taking music lessons. It's good for her.
But no one has said that. Not even once.
And hyperbolizing every little criticism into something too large to be addressed is simply a passive-agressive way of getting out of having to attempt change.
Is that some sort of attempt at "I know you are, but what am I?" response?
Let's take a look at what I actually said, and why I said it.
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Yes, I would know this, because I have read every post you've made in this thread.
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Yes, I would know this, because it's a pattern you have repeated since you began posting
Sigh. But there is a difference between something that needs to be done because of external reasons (if you don't clean your room, it will be a health hazard; if you don't eat healthy food, you will get sick) and something that "needs" to be done because the parent perceives there's some sort of flaw in the child which needs fixing.
Your analogy doesn't work.
I suggest that you do some reading into the research of Thomas and Chess.
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