Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 1:40pm

What kills me is having to set everything in motion so early. The kid is only NINE. She's been doing this since she was FIVE. Sheesh. Give her some time off. A nine year old absolutely ought to have the option of doing absolutely nothing other than being a nine year old if that's what suits their personality and needs.


When we were in elementary school, the school always wanted us to go to special summer enrichment programs. My father put his foot down and said no, that school was hard work and we needed the summertime just to play and be kids. Aside from swimming lessons and two weeks of vacation bible school, we did not have one single scheduled activity during the summer for the first 14 years our lives, and guess what? We're all perfectly fine. My brother has a masters in Engineering, several patents to his name, and has been the sole support of his family for over 18 years. My sister has a masters and a Law degree, and is on the Executive board of a very large corporation in addition to doing various charity work. I have a masters degree and am quite the happy little camper. None of us are unhappy with our lives. We are all in stable loving relationships and are very close with our parents.


Our parents absolutely valued us for what we are, warts and all. One thing that stands out in my mind is that my parents were always my advocates - they were always absolutely on my side 100%. Of course they were strict; of course they had high expectations of us. But they weren't the "you must do X to be successful" kind of expectations I'm seeing in this thread.

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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 1:41pm

And your dd has had musical training. Quite a lot of it, in fact. There is a point of diminishing return.

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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 1:48pm

Wow it is amazing to me that you cant seem to say one nice thing about your daughter.

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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 3:08pm

<<she can choose an instrument she likes better (except vocal, she inherited my voice, nuff said).

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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 3:13pm
No she really doesnt.
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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 3:20pm
yes
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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 3:21pm
I've read exactly what YOU have POSTED. That is enough to know WHERE you are coming from & it isn't a good angle dear!

Don't ask stupid questions.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 3:22pm
So if she wants to major in home economics she again will go against what YOU want FOR her!

Ugh.

When does she get to have any say in her OWN life? Maybe around 30 or do you prefer 40?

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 3:24pm
Sends a message of love & support. Unlikely that you will have see that point of view in your shaded world. Doesn't sound like it is working your way either. Yah, you are right, poor kid! That is for sure.
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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 3:25pm
I've listened to EVERY post you have AUTHORED & believe me, I still feel the same way about it!

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