Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 5:47pm

Maybe I'm looking for some OT advice here....I had DD going to sleep ON HER OWN, IN HER ROOM.

Mondo

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 5:48pm

Yep. As I said in a post below, I often *choose* to spend my lunch hour that way. But that's *my* doing .. not because I can't do a mommy break, but because I choose not to. Just like SAHMs can do a mommy break, but choose not to.


Doesn't make either job easier or harder, just different.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 5:59pm
DH and were just talking last night about how we can't wait until the girls go back to school so we can come home for "lunch".
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 6:01pm
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7. Daddy taking care of the kids.
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 6:04pm
Heck, we're considering renting a hotel room by his office over lunch!!! It's THAT bad!!

Mondo

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 6:16pm
I became a sahm when dh joined the Army. It was very hard for me to adapt in the begining. All the cooking and cleaning that never ever ended. Before we'd always split the chores, but when I was sah dh thought I had all day to clean and he didn't need to help. That made it hard, and I resented him for a while. Going out and eating lunch, just basically getting out of the house. Plus when we first got here we only had one vehicle. And we were miles and miles away from family.

But now two years later, I find it's easy for the most part. Not physically demanding, but definitely emotionaly demanding. I find I have too much free time also. But we recently got a puppy and he keeps me busy along with my two year old.

All in all I guess it all depends!

Erin
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 6:17pm
>>It works really well for me and my family, trust me. You just don't know what my life is like.<<

So when does your DH spend time with the kids? With you? With his outside interests (i.e. not work or family)?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 6:24pm
So how many WOHMs get naptime like you do? ....and when was the last time lunch lasted longer than a nap?
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 6:49pm

They've only been home what? a week or two? Gee, you horny old broad.


Get them jobs. Make sure they work during the lunch hour, lol.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 7:00pm
>>>Well, your response shows only that you didn't mean "sad." You meant it's something that wouldn't work in your life. It works really well for me and my family, trust me. You just don't know what my life is like. There are many words I'd use to describe my very privileged life, but sad is definitely not one.

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No, I said what I meant. I find a life choice like that sad.

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