Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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I don't know what it is that I follow, but I've never had any trouble getting kids to nap at a certain time.
If that would be my absolutely only chance to have alone time during the day then I would take it. Yes, I am selfish enough to put off chores to do something for myself. But then of course that would take away the chance to be a martyr.
Edited to add that I think the title is at least as insulting to men, it's like they're gerbils or something.
Edited 5/13/2004 8:11 am ET ET by cocoapop
You haven't been reading my posts in accusing me of being a martyr. And you're not being truthful if you think any mom can wake up and then immediately grab an hr alone to herself at 6:30 a.m. to drive around town running errands at - what did you say is open at 6:30 a.m.? the post office? ANd you are not being honest if you think that immediately upon waking up in the morning, it is practical for any mom (woh or sah) to leave 3 children (or even a single child) at 6:30 a.m. to grab an hr. to be alone and read a book. It's completely unrealistic, you know this, and I don't know what you're trying to get at.
Clearly, I stated DH must start getting ready at 7:30. Is he not allowed to shower either? Just because his wife sah? You know that you are making absolutely no sense, yet you persist.
Yes, I envy the wohms' lunch break. What's the big deal, where is the martyr syndrome?
and it took a GOOD long time to learn to appreciate the armful of fuzzy fur that launches himself into my arms the very SECOND the shower stops running. Cyduck (the non-Siamese) has never learned to wait for me to get a towel on--I've had to learn to 1) don a towel with the water running, and 2) appreciate kitty-facial pheronomes reapplied liberally all over my face and chest upon emerging from the shower. it's sweet now, but it's DEFINITELY an acquired taste.
Alone?
I think not.
By choice? Absolutely. Totally worth the price and more. Kinda like the lack of me time and alone time I got when my son was little. Inconvenient? Yeah, sure, but it was worth it...and NOT worth being envious of someone else's work (or lack) status and whatever perks come with.
You envy my lunch, but I have no idea why, when you're getting naps.
Jenna
Sorry, I'm not trying to pick on you specifically, but this is (obviously) a huge pet peeve of mine. (But like I said up top, "i still luv ya!" :)
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