Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Susan
good post!
Jen
If you were asking what I did at home....then...on the days that I got off at 5pm I would go to the grocery store that was across the street from my child's DC and do my shopping, my house was MUCH cleaner with no one home, I took her to school on the way to work and she roade a bus to after school care. On my weekday off (I was a single parent) when she was in DC I would take her for a half day so I could go to the dentist, doctor appts, clean our house, do laundry, etc. When she was in school I had an entire day to do those things plus I had time for myself. I had a lot more freedom when I WOH. This is just my experience...doesn't mean it is everyone elses.
That's a big difference from what you're saying! Once upon a time, I worked and I recall that lunch hr. and I miss it! Can't I dream? Some days I couldn't get lunch. Some days I'd shop for 2 hrs. Some days, I'd only have time to run downstairs, stand on line with other adults, not worry that my 3 were going to run away from the line with some puppet-weilding child pornographer, and then order what I liked. Then I could eat it at my desk without 6 little grubby hands reaching for a piece!
I don't understand why my revery get so blown out of proportion and was taken the wrong way. I am very careful with my words and I've been posting for a while. And of course I know that not all workers get a full lunch hr out of the office, and some get no lunch break at all. Contrary to what you think, I am not a complete idiot.
I know I love being home with my children, and I have a life that is better than even I dreamt of. TRust me. But I am never going to come here and brag. And I don't understand why my pointing out the negatives of sah practically escalated into diagnoses of post-partum depression! (again a hyperbole for effect - we've all got to laugh at this thread, right?) Sorry for the confusion, Hollie. I'm going into lurk mode for a looong time, OK for a day, and figure out why I was so misunderstood, esp. by kgalligan. I apologize for being imprecise with diction.
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