Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 6:25am
and to think that I DO miss pantyhose (except in the summer, that was always a drag), the morning rush hour (favorite time of mine, loud music and just sitting there...aaahhhh my little heaven, especially with some coffee!) and I even miss my old boss!

Misty

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 6:49am
Holy mackerel.

 

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 7:50am

Phooey on "Dr." Laura.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:01am
<<>>

But then you don't know many sahm's. Personally, I'm thrilled that Grace just misses the kindergarten cut-off this year and that I'll have more time with her, and I know many other sahm's in similar situations who feel the same way.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:06am
"Even if you appreciate being home, there is still a danger of having things get hum-drum *if you let it*. "

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:09am
Thanks for the additional info.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:10am
LOL about the "addiction."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:11am
You are one sick young lady.

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:24am

<<"But every SAHM I know can't wait for their kids to be in school.">>


My experience has been the opposite. I'll be quite sad when the kiddos are in school full-time, and most of the SAHMs I know feel the same way (except maybe the ones who have just had a 2nd baby, and are struggling with learning to balance the two kids, LOL).


Most of the WOHMs I know were very happy when their kids hit full-time school age and attended public school, as it meant no more paying for their daytime care.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:30am
Yup, and I currently attribute it to a mid life crisis early, along with marital problems and newly cropped up financial problems.

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