Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 11:20am
Well, in my defense, there is a huge difference between a child who is going off to kindergarten as the oldest and a child who has been "socialized" in a large family. On top of that, my little guy is already comfortable at school-- he knows where the office is and he likes the library and he knows several teachers. He's been to many a holiday party.

It is nice to have a couple in school and a couple not. It is much more fun hanging out with two little guys who can talk and play independently than hanging out with four children with a wide variety of needs. I will only get one year with one child at home. It will be a very strange year for me, I think. Who knows what will happen to my multitasking abilities that year!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 11:26am

Hey, my friend with three under the age of 5, started homeschooling when the oldest was ready for kindergarten and had another baby.


Are you up for a fifth child?


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 11:38am

Need I remind you that home improvement projects and scrap books are never caught up?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 11:56am
ROFLOL.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 12:00pm
Well, I am but I would probably have to find a new husband! This one admits he is in over his head with four. (Common knowledge at our house that my dh so loved me that he "gave" me ds3 and ds4. I am going to count my blessings and possibly become some rich chick's nanny in a few years when I need my next baby fix.)
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Registered: 05-13-2004
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 12:31pm
Hi there,

I am new to the board and I wasn't going to join it because, I think the SAHM and WOM debate is pointless...in the way I was looking at it. I would see this debate and the agruement would be just as hot as if who loves their childern more...or if you work outside the home the childern will not get what they need.

Well, to be honest I have always worked before I had childern but, when I had my son I quit because, I wasnt finding work and when I found work I could not find daycare I could afford. I was going to go back to school when my son Ben turned 18 months old and then I found out I was pregnant with my daughter.

I had a very differcult pregnancy because, my hubby is in the Navy and out to sea for 6 months and I was having some major depression. So I moved back with my family so I would not have my daughter alone. When Barbara (my daughter) was born she had a kind of a birth defect and when she was 2 weeks old she almost died from a Urinosptis (an a infection of the kidneys that spreed though her body). She had a duplicate kidney and ulter which kept urine back up and she also had a deformed bladder.

She did have part of her kidney removed when she was 11 month and we are still waiting on what is going on with the bladder. They test her bladder every 6 months to see if she will have reflux still if she does then she will do another surgery.

I wanna go back to work but, I wont till I know my baby is o.k. I would not rely on someone else taking care of her because, of her condition. I am her mom and we are not broke from me being home. So we can afford for me not to work...but...

I was kinda put into the SAHM thing....It is HARD...very HARD....



Truly,

notaperfectmom

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 1:36pm

Most of us

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 1:55pm
Are these whoms you know all teachers, or where do they get these jobs with - what would that be - hours like "10:00-2:00"? Are they all part time wohms?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 2:22pm
I agree. The controversial ones are usually just telling ME what THEY think (and I'm supposed to notice that they don't think what I think - its THEIR whole game that I notice). I'm more worried about the ones who are telling ME what I think (without me noticing that I'm being told what to think - thats THEIR whole game that I don't notice). The controversial ones make it easy for me to pick and choose. The noncontroversial ones make it much more difficult.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 2:31pm

What do you mean by that? Who tells you what YOU think?

Mondo

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