Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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I was very sad when my oldest started school.
Ah, here we go: www.autism.ppd.net/DrLauraon/html
These parents of autistic children did not find her comments compassionate or helpful.
No, it doesn't take a good man in order for this book to work. A good man wouldn't buy it and an intelligent woman wouldn't think it's necessary for her to cater to her dh's whims deserved or not. It is for this reason this marriage must now end. My dd's WILL NOT grow up in a household where their father thinks my role in life is to please him. I WILL NOT set that kind of example for my dd's. Pleasing some man is not what women are put on this earth for. My dd's will grow up seeing that women are people in their own right. Not subservient little whimpettes whose purpose is to please their dh's whether he pleases them or not. It blows my mind that any woman would think she should.
It is not solely the woman's responsibility to make her man happy. Her happiness counts too. I would be an awful mother if I let my dd's grow up with a mother who modeled that it's the woman's responsibility to keep her man happy. We left those days behind about 50 years ago. Dr. Hypocrite needs to catch up with the times.
Edited 5/14/2004 4:49 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
Edited 5/14/2004 5:09 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
<<While our marriage hasn't been romantic for a long time, it was kind of like a comfortable pair of old jeans. Time to throw them in the rag bag. >>
That's how I felt for the last 2-3 years ... before the affair. Wish I'd gone out and put on some sequin patches or something.
If you both want it, you can repair those comfortable old jeans ... if not, the rag bag now is better than than getting huge holes in them later on.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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