Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 7:00pm

The assumption is though, when one uses the title Dr. (due to you as the holder of a PhD or not) that you actually have a PhD in the subject area where you're working.


She has a biological degree (physiology- how the human body works). . .she is not a psychiatrist or a medical doctor.

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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 8:21pm
I don't dispute that Dr. Laura has certain paper credentials.

 

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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:31pm
You obviously didn't read the book. Everything you stated in your post is so far off from the book it is amazing. If you did read it then I suggest you try again. Nothing in that book says bend to your man's whims. That is just ridiculous.
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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:36pm
WHAT IS WRONG WITH A WOMAN MAKING HER HUSBAND HAPPY? Doesn't it make you happy to do things to make him happy? I love when my husband does those little things for me. I enjoy making him happy....Am I responsible for his happiness? No...but WE will do all it takes to make each other happy. To me that is an excellent role model.
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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 12:54am
I think you've got your own issues woman... I mean, it's a hell of alot easier for a woman to please a man than the other way around.
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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 12:57am
Well, I don't think so.
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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 1:01am

She was in private practice for several years.


Your problem with her is you don't agree with her opinions.

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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 1:04am
No, a man
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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 7:53am
What's wrong is putting the responsiblity for his happiness on her. Marriage is a two way street. Not one where the wife is supposed to give regardless of reciprocation and regardless of whether it's what she wants. The notion that it's all te wifes fault is an old and faulty one.
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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 7:55am
What? It's easier for me to please him than him me? Regardless, my purpose in life is NOT to please some man. And I disagree. I don't think women are harder to please than men. I believe marriage is a two way street. Not a one way street where I give, he takes and whether or not I'm happy with the situation is irrelevent. Dr. Hyporcrite indicates women should concern themselves with their dh's happiness with no thought of getting anything in return. That is WRONG. Relationships go two ways not one.

And no, it doesn't make me happy to do things to make him happy. That's not my purpose in life. Happiness is a choice. Not something dependent on what someone else does for you. At least it shouldn't be. Unfortunately, this is what Dr. Hypocrite teaches. As I said earlier, I prefer to do what she's done instead of what she says. The woman doesn't take her own advice. She is certainly not someone I'd take advice from.


Edited 5/15/2004 7:59 am ET ET by grimalkinskeeper

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