Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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He must have been really unhappy with the marriage.
I can
But but but...some men don't know how to ask. Some have been trained to believe "If you loved me, you wouldn't have to ask". Some people simply aren't good at reading signals.
Did you ever see "The Good Girl?" Jennifer Aniston's character spends the whole movie agonizing over how unhappy she is in her marriage, and then is shocked to discover that her husband is sad and lonely too.
Sometimes, relationships fall into what a friend of mine calls the "Volcano Goddess" syndrome - one partner works really hard at making the relationship work, then is furious to find out the other partner isn't happy. "Look at everything I'm doing here - how DARE you be unhappy!!!" I'm getting a lot of this vibe out of this thread.
OR maybe her dh just doesn't do ANY stuff for her.
eileen
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