Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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The book we need is The Proper Care and Feeding of Wives but I have a feeling that dh's reaction would be about the same as mine.
Oh, I agree with you.
I do what I do because these things are important to me. They are not important to dh so he doesn't help. He is not obligated to help me make happen what I think should happen. If we were in agreement that these things need to be done, then yes, he'd be obligated to help but he'd just as soon I didn't do any of it but that is not an option. At issue now is the simple fact I don't have time to do more as he wants me to do (and wouldn't if I had the time as I don't consider the wife to blame just because she's the wife). If he's unhappy, he needs to do something about that not buy me books detailing how I'm supposed to change to please him. He doesn't help with the extra curricular stuff because he doesn't think it's necessary. I do so I'm going to make sure it gets done help or no help.
Has he ever been tactful in asking what he wants or expressing himself to you?
Maybe he didn't realize she needed the help or maybe he doesn't agree and didn't want her doing all the extra's in the first place?
but did he think that?
It seems that you both are putting yourselves first and neither of you are considering the other.
He wants what he wants and refuses to see your way.
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