Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Why? Because it's compassionate and tolerant, and it's LIFE. I find this attitude extremely ignorant and selfish. I hope you'd have the sense then not to invite ANY children. I would permanently discontinue any association with someone who chose to exclude only my child based on any condition whatsoever.
Carol
Edited 5/16/2004 12:53 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
If I have to choose between making sure my kids have what they need and my dh gets what he wants, my kids win. Dh can take a hike. IMO, I would be setting a bad example for my dd's if I did what he wants. I'd rather set and example as a strong, self sufficient single mom than a married subservient wimpette. I find the idea that it's my job to insure his happiness and I should drop things I feel are important to do so repulsive. I'd rather be a single mom with her pride intact.
Has dh ever been tactful? No. Not one of his strong points but that doesn't make what he did right. It just means he's a jerk.
Like I said, I have never read the book, let alone heard of it until now.
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