Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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As for counseling, dh agreed but dropped it as soon as I backed off on filing, which I did only because we were supposed to go into counseling and I figured with children involved the court would probably order it anyway. Apparently, unless I file, we don't need a counselor. Of course, my schedule is to blame for us not seeing one. The only day open was Saturday and he didn't want to do Saturday. I've been out of school and dd out of Sylvan for the summer for two weeks now so Monday's and Tuesday's are free but he still hasn't made an appointment. I'm sure it's somehow my fault (he, supposedly, had a counselor picked out). Apparently any effort on his part is too much to expect.
I have no choice but to take this class. It's normally offered only in the daytime. This is a special offer to accomodate me and another student so we can complete our math majors. So, come fall, I'll add dashing from work to pick up the sitter then to my dd's school to get them, drop the sitter and dd's off at home and then dash off to school myself. Fortunately, I will be getting off school just about the time dh gets home so he won't have to be bothered to drive the sitter home. All of this to cover the 20 minutes tops I can't cover using latch key because the latch key closes 10 minutes after my class gets out.
No, I'm what's broken and I'm expected to fix it according to both dh and Laura S.
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