Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 04-22-2004
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 10:52pm
I agree with this. It really depends completely on your situation. I stay home with my 4-yr-old and 21-month-old (used to work 3 days/week when my 4-yr old was younger). I found two children to be much, much harder than one, and since my children are close in age and my husband had very long hours, things were incredibly difficult during my daughter's infancy. I had no help and it felt as though I had two babies at the time. Now that they're older, things are easier in some ways b/c both kids can do more for themselves. But when you factor in laundry, cooking, cleaning, carting my son to school (with daughter in tow), etc... it's still hard! Being a working mom is very, very hard too. I think being a Mom, whether working or SAH is never really easy.
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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 11:55pm

Well, you'll hate me for this, but I must point out that Dr. Laura does have a certification as a marriage, family and child counseling

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 12:41am
Do you love him? nt
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 12:44am
"I think women can fall into a couple of categories. Those that have active careers and can't stand to give them up so they are unhappy at home, those that have active careers and so deeply appreciate the time off they love staying at home, and those that never had very active or stressful careers so they neither appreciate the time off nor feel they want to go back to work and just wallow in a state of discontent."

Yikes! That's kind of a dire prognosis. I don't feel I fall into any of those categories. I have an active, albeit relaxed, career and I enjoy both my time at home and at work.

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 1:27am
Hey I know that one!! That's because University of Southern California, LA is USC, not UCLA
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 6:03am
Your martyr complex for one. And your "I'm always right" attitude second.
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 6:12am

I think it is more about getting to a counsler and working it out together and learning to communicate and prioritize.

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 6:32am

Aren't you doing the same thing?

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 6:46am

The point is not whether the woman called Dr. Laura, or whether a child with Tourette's would disrupt his aunt's wedding.

 

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:06am

I did say in an earlier post that I disagree with

 

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