Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 9:21am

Yes, after everyone posted that their costs wouldn't change, I realized that the moms I was thinking of who were happy with their kids starting school were teachers. But their work hours aren't 10:00-2:00; it's more like 8:00 to 3:00, or 7:30 to 3:30.


I'd still disagree, though, that most SAHMs are happy when their kids are in school full-time, at least based on myself, and the ones I know.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 9:43am
Has it occurred to you to read her posts about WHY she has too much on her plate?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 9:45am
Ok - but your view is stereotypical.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 9:53am
That's why I buy myself my jewelry.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 9:57am
Yup, that's what I do.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 9:57am
Ah ha gotcha. . .

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 10:00am
I'm truly sorry, but my goodness, I see so much of my DH in your DH....your DH is not the only one against putting forth any kind of effort.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 10:11am
He's being the selfish one. She's looking out for the girls and the family's financial health.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 10:13am

"You think he should change his by doing more but don't think you should change yours by doing less."


Of course she shouldn't do less - does any poster here think she should do less with the kids or her school????

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 10:17am
I agree.

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