Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 10:58am
No.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:00am
LOL.. I was being sarcastic ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:03am
Hey we agree on something!!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:05am
ITA. The marital relationship takes work, and needs constant nurturing, sometimes before the children's desires, or even a perceived "need" of the child which is really more of a "want." IMO, the greatest thing any of us can do for our children is to love and care for our spouses (and that goes for both wife *and* husband).
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:07am
You think we overanalyze everything?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:08am
It depends on your outlook on life. DH certainly comes after the children, and more than half the time, comes after "me" time.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:11am

Hmm... Well I've never had very many female friends, never really liked girls much ;)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:12am
Thanks for answering - I was pretty sure you had more male than female friends.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:13am
My outlook I guess is that my marriage needs to be strong for anything else to work right.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:24am

Raising hand.


I do.

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