Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Do you have reading comprehension problems? Or are you ignoring hte places where I think the wife should take some responsiblity too?
<<If it's the wife that's withholding sex, >>
I have a problem with the word withholding. That implies punishment. Or that its a calculated move or bribery. Not having desire is not the same as withholding.
<<if it's the wife that has emotional issues surrounding sex, >>
The emotional issues aren't "surrounding sex". Its not the sex that is the issue. And if ANY spouse has emotional issues that connect to or affect their partner, its a problem for both of them and both have a stake, and responsibolity, in solving that problem.
<<it is HER problem to figure out.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
There's too much trust at sake. When I want to be intimate with my dh, I want him to truly know I want to, and I'm not just caving in for his needs. And vice versa.
I do have friends who have confided into me that they've *faked it* for his sake. For the same reasons, (plus some, LOL) I think that's an awful idea - it just takes away trust.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Carol
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