Have you ever, for more than five min...

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Have you ever, for more than five min...
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Sat, 08-25-2007 - 2:38am

Have you ever, for more than five minutes, questioned your choice?



  • Yes and am considering changing my status
  • Yes, many times
  • Yes, once or twice
  • Am in the midst of changing my status
  • Not really
  • NEVER
  • Other (because there has to be one)


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Sat, 08-25-2007 - 2:45am

The results will be shown in one week, next Saturday. It is totally anonymous unless you choose to post something.

I am an "Other." Since I am an empty nester now, this is no applicable to my current lifestyle. Twelve years ago, I would have said "not really." Nine years ago, I would have said, "I'm in the midst of..". Seven years ago, I would have said, "Yes, many times" after I started working due to my own health problems and the children's increasing mental health problems. Five years ago, I was back to "I'm in the midst of..". Two years ago, being an empty nester began.

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 10:02am

I think about it occasionally. As much as I enjoy SAH, I do sometimes miss my career. And of course I think about the future, when my kids are older and wonder if I'll go back to what I did before or try something new.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 10:22am
The question you asked was "Have you ever, for more than five minutes, questioned your choice?" So why would you current status matter? Looks to me your answer to "Have you ever, for more than five minutes, questioned your choice?" Would be yes.
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Sat, 08-25-2007 - 11:20am

Right now is the third time I'm considering going to work part time. The first was the only time I actually went through the interview process and the job was mine if I wanted it. I'm looking into working part time at the Y watching kids while people work out, I have 4 in school and could take the 2 little ones with me. I imagine the hours are somewhat flexible and I could get the hours I wanted and trade days or hours with someone else so that I could do field trips with my older kids. If it's not the perfect situation then I won't take it.

Amy

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 12:22pm
I said that I am in the midst of changing my status... however, I probably should have said other, because I have never questioned my choice. Our needs changed, that's all. I don't regret what I used to do and I don't regret what I'm changing to.
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 12:35pm

I checked not really. While have wished things could be different at times, I don't question my choice in my life. I know WOH makes life better for my kids. There are days where I'd just as soon SAH because I don't want to get up and go to work but I know that would be cheating my kids so I don't do it.

I don't question what I do under my circumstances but I've been known to wish circumstances were different. In an ideal world, I'd be able to indulge myself in being home without financial penalty.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 9:51pm

Good point, I don't for a minute question my choice to stay home for the last 11 years I just may be changing my choice for now and in the future.

Amy

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sun, 08-26-2007 - 10:57am

I voted never. I love my job and being a teacher has enabled me to have a great schedule with plenty of time (hours & days) at home. It's been a fabulous balance.

Additionally, in hind-sight, considering I got separated & then divorced -- it was a GREAT decision to have stayed in the work force -- otherwise, I would not have been able to support my three kids on the salary I would have made. I STILL had difficulty supporting them on what I was making.

Carole

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Sun, 08-26-2007 - 5:56pm

Not seriously or with regret. But I regularly re visit if what I'm doing is the right thing for my family and me. So far, the answer has always been yes. But yes I regularly take stock and question the "status quo." That's just the way I am though.

MM

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Registered: 10-17-2006
Sun, 08-26-2007 - 6:00pm
Sure, yes :)

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