having 3+ kids close together in age....

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having 3+ kids close together in age....
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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 9:10am

from the "SAHM wanting to use DC" thread.....


I know that hehmommy's post was an April Fool's joke, but....I'm at the point that all of my friends/acquaintances bar one have at least two children now.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 9:44am

I'm sorry, I can't shed any light on your question. Two children is all I could handle, regardless of work status or how much help I had.


We had our children close together because of my age and our desire to get through the early part of babyhood quickly, as well as hoping the age spread would help the children become friends.


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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 9:45am

I wonder how many of those 12-18 month additions were "Oooops, my periods arent regulated yet and I got pg too soon.""

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 9:47am

"I wonder how many of those 12-18 month additions were "Oooops, my periods arent regulated yet and I got pg too soon.""

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 10:10am
It all depends on the parents. I have seen couples be overwhelmed with one child and couple who handle 4 or 5 closely spaced children with ease. IME, parents don't know that the next child will tip the balance. They usually stop when the balance has been tipped (sort of like the Peter's Principle of Parenting - parents will always have one more child than they can handle.)
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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 10:56am

Personally

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 10:59am

I haven't really seen that.

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 11:21am

I think there was a Parenting magazine article about this, and I'm trying to remember what it said about the pros and cons of closely-spaced, medium-spaced, and widely-spaced children. It was something like:

Closely Space (<18 months apart)
Pros: siblings might enjoy playing together more; fewer years of changing diapers
Cons: it's like herding cats and you're buried with diapers

Medium Spaced (2-4 years apart)
Pros: you don't have more than one in diapers at the same time for very long; no more than two in college at a time
Cons: with 3 children, you're likely to be changing diapers for a decade by the time everyone's potty trained; stronger sibling jealousy issues

Widely Spaced (5 or more years apart)
Pros: older siblings can help out more; gives you time in between children where you aren't changing diapers and having sleepless nights
Cons: tick tock tick tock goes your biological clock

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 11:25am

I had another thought,lol. It has happened for a very long time but a few times when the first 4 were little if I dared make any comment about the kids driving me nuts or needing a break, some people would comment "well you wanted all those kids", this usually from the same people that couldn't handle 2 kids no matter how far apart in age, I always wondered why it was okay for them to say

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 11:25am

My last comment was a little tongue in cheek. There are many families that stop before they have reached their personal limit - either because of good planning or it is just the way it worked out.

I read somewhere that 1/3 of all babies were unplanned. That might explain a few of the cases. I know several women whose DH's were totally against a vasc. until the third child came along and they voluntarily "ran" to the doctor. ;)

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 11:27am

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