having 3+ kids close together in age....

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having 3+ kids close together in age....
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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 9:10am

from the "SAHM wanting to use DC" thread.....


I know that hehmommy's post was an April Fool's joke, but....I'm at the point that all of my friends/acquaintances bar one have at least two children now.

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 11:36pm
Have another:) Seriously, a singleton pregnancy is SOOOOOOOOOOOO much easier. I was relaxed the whole time. I worked out the morning I went into labor (one week late) and after 30 hours of labor had an emergency C section. they handed me my son and he went right to my breast and nursed away. Hasnt stopped since really:) is 20 pounds at 5 months. Amazing. Its such a different experience. So much easier. So wonderful. I wouldnt trade my twin expeirence for anything on gods green earth. Feel the same way about my singleton.

Good luck:)
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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 1:11am

I think they're looking at the longer term benefits of having the kids closer together--similar to why some people choose to have both knees replaced at the same time (if they need them both replaced). Sure, the initial stages are a huge PAIN and a lot more difficult than one at a time.

But in the long term, it's all over with sooner, too.

And, leaving the surgery analogy behind, I think people think children will bond more closely if they are closer in ages. And there's a good bit of truth to that, I would imagine, even as much as there's a high probability the kids will also FIGHT more the closer in ages they are. (But my older sisters are a year apart and I'm 4 and 5 years younger than they are. And my brother is 4 years younger than I. We all bonded pretty well and we all fought like cats and dogs. Well, not so much my brother and my older sisters because they were 8 and 9 years older than he, but he and I fought (and bonded and my sisters and I fought and bonded and my sisters fought and bonded with each other, too).

For some, the benefits outweigh the initial hardships.

And for some, they're just in denial :)

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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 1:14am
Felicia, hard as it is to believe, not everyone needs as much absolute control over their lives as you do. For a lot of people, they're fine with unplanned. Try not to let your head explode ;)

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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 1:18am

Green Eggs and Ham only has 50 different words (he wrote it as a bet that he couldn't write a good kids' book using 50 words or less).

http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/h2g2/A3631961

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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 1:41am

Have another:) Seriously, a singleton pregnancy is SOOOOOOOOOOOO much easier. I was relaxed the whole time. I worked out the morning I went into labor (one week late) and after 30 hours of labor had an emergency C section"


Ya, I was so freaked out about pre-term labor, and having to go on bedrest and all the rest of the horror stories I heard about a twin pregnancy, I didn't do ANYTHING. I don't know if not doing anything helped me have an easy pregnancy or if I was just like that. I just didn't want to chance it! That's what happens when you read the internet so much. You just freak out and think every little symptom is a sign of "something" bad.

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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 4:34am

We had 5 kids in 5 years, and sometimes it is really hard.

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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 5:23am

I was infertile for 2 years, because of hormonal problems.

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Registered: 10-13-2007
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 6:29am

I am not sure I can totally answer your question because my kids aren't that close in age, but i do have 4 boys. They are ages 17, 15, 10 and 2.

Lori

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Registered: 10-13-2007
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 6:45am

Some people can't use hormonal birth control. I for one can't, it causes my blood pressure to go through the roof to the point that my doctor was very worried I was going to have a stroke. Which we have a high family history of strokes around age 35-40.

Lori

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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 8:30am

I too know families with 4 and 5 children who are not in the slightest bit overwhelmed - the woman who's coming in at 7.30am today to help me with open enrollment at preschool has 4, fairly close together, they are gorgeous, jolly kids, she's simply a lovely woman, she's always extremely well put together, and she finds time to volunteer, she's always smiling....you get the picture.

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