having 3+ kids close together in age....

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having 3+ kids close together in age....
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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 9:10am

from the "SAHM wanting to use DC" thread.....


I know that hehmommy's post was an April Fool's joke, but....I'm at the point that all of my friends/acquaintances bar one have at least two children now.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 8:42am

"What I don't understand is why people who have had 2 very close together and are struggling and overwhelmed, then have a third right away. "

IME, those are "oops" babies. I have a few friends who fall into that category.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 9:14am

just because couples have unprotected sex doesn't mean they are preparing themselves for a pregnancy.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 9:19am
lol,i have to agree about number 3 being less stressful and EASIEST.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 9:57am
I had to chuckle a little at your view of life when you'll be 45.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 10:00am
They should be. That's what causes pregnancy.

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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 10:04am
Chiming late, but my bro has 3 boys close in age, and it was a little stressful but now that they're all a little older, 6, 8, 9 they all have a ball together and it is a really wonderful thing to see.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 10:05am
don't count out seeing those grandchildren -my mom was forty when Iw as born (30 when my brother was born, 32 when my sister was born) and she saw seven grandchildren -- my dad (who was fifty when Iw as born) lived to see two of the seven.

 

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 10:24am

"What I don't understand is why people who have had 2 very close together and are struggling and overwhelmed, then have a third right away."

I understand why it would seem illogical to many people. But as someone who feels that there is a child still missing from my family, I would say that it makes perfect sense in some situations. I will try to wait for the "best time" to have my third. If the choice comes down to having a child at a time that is less than ideal, or not having that third child at all, I will go with the less than ideal time. The only exception would be if my children are suffering from my stress.

I should also admit that judgments and criticisms of those with closely spaced children are a sore spot for me. For reasons I do not understand, having two under two is like a red flag for criticism. I get comments from strangers at first glance (meaning, on the basis only of having two children close in age. comments that come while the kids are sitting quietly in the double stroller, which is not blocking anyone's path.) If I am stressed, and at times overwhelmed, but my kids are thriving, I don't see why anyone should think they know better than I do what is right for my family.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 10:26am

I don't think anyone is immune from comments -- I get them for only having one -- the "oh you're so selfish -- she needs a sister/brother"

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 10:33am
No matter what you do, you're open to criticism.

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