Having "Adult Interaction"

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Having "Adult Interaction"
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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 11:34am
So I mentioned this briefly in another thread but I've been meaning to ask about it. I'm a SAHM to 2 small toddlers. Personally, I don't *care* what other mothers choose to do. I've never inquired about "well, why do you WOH"... It's really none of my business nor do I care. I've been in several playgroups for my kiddos and sure enough, I get bombarded with comments from the WHOM about having "adult interaction". I mean seriously...what do they think I do all day?..Do WOHM think us SAHM just baby talk all day and are prisoners to our home and never speak with adults?.. It's funny, b/c a lot of times, they won't directly make that comment to me but will be passive aggressive...saying something like..."Oh I JUST had to go back to work to get the adult interaction"--waiting for me to respond like "oh yes, I agree, I miss the adult interaction"..... Almost like they are justifying why they work! If you are going to a job just to be around adults, that's pretty pathetic IMO. There are a million things I could get involved in that would be around adults, w/o having to go to work. I don't need work to fullfill my adult talk. I don't get it..Why is this always the first comment out of a WOHM? It's an indirect insult or putdown.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 3:26pm

You have no interaction in your life similiar to your DH's adult interaction at his workplace.


is it your opinion that stimulation/interaction for a sahm needs to

 

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Registered: 07-31-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 3:27pm
I hear you. I'm going back to work to be able to occasionally pee 1) with the door closed; and 2)without one leg jostling to keep my one year old from
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 3:36pm

He sounds like me.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 3:40pm

I am the social one of the two of us.


I am an extroverted introvert, if that makes sense.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 3:50pm

I agree with this the most. DH has his own biz with around 30 employees last I counted, and he doesn't get his "interaction" from his employees!! The things he talks about with his employees are work related. I guess if your idea of a good convo is discussing work, than I guess WOH would fit you. As a matter of fact, he will write them up for socializing and not working. So for his employees, the times they get together is after work to "talk".


And yes, I do think it's pathetic to go to work to be around adults b/c

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 3:56pm
ok let's call it what it is for me.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 3:58pm
Are you saying you didn't enjoy talking "shop" when you WOH, and that talking about work doesn't make good conversation?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 3:59pm

No, that's not my opinion.


Please read post 9 in this thread carefully - Wende sums it up perfectly.


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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 4:05pm

LOL!

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Registered: 07-31-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 4:11pm

"Almost like they are justifying why they work!"


If you assume they feel they have to justify why they work, then you may be reading more into it to begin with. It's too bad that anyone feels the need to "justify" why they work or stay home or do both, but someone has yet to hit the Perfect World button. (Who's hiding that thing?!?)


For me, it's all about the amount of time

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