Having "Adult Interaction"

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Having "Adult Interaction"
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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 11:34am
So I mentioned this briefly in another thread but I've been meaning to ask about it. I'm a SAHM to 2 small toddlers. Personally, I don't *care* what other mothers choose to do. I've never inquired about "well, why do you WOH"... It's really none of my business nor do I care. I've been in several playgroups for my kiddos and sure enough, I get bombarded with comments from the WHOM about having "adult interaction". I mean seriously...what do they think I do all day?..Do WOHM think us SAHM just baby talk all day and are prisoners to our home and never speak with adults?.. It's funny, b/c a lot of times, they won't directly make that comment to me but will be passive aggressive...saying something like..."Oh I JUST had to go back to work to get the adult interaction"--waiting for me to respond like "oh yes, I agree, I miss the adult interaction"..... Almost like they are justifying why they work! If you are going to a job just to be around adults, that's pretty pathetic IMO. There are a million things I could get involved in that would be around adults, w/o having to go to work. I don't need work to fullfill my adult talk. I don't get it..Why is this always the first comment out of a WOHM? It's an indirect insult or putdown.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 4:12pm

i have friends who have outside interests and studios for their art,their dress making and other hobbies that are just enough for them to leave the house but still sah too :).

 

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 4:21pm

"i woh for adult interaction is just an excuse."


Are you serious?

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 4:23pm

In my opinion, the thing about having "adult interaction" isn't about simply speaking with other adults. It's about going for extended periods of time *without* speaking with children or about children.

Sometimes I get a song stuck in my head for a long time. Even though I like the song, if I have nothing else to listen to, then hearing it in my head over and over and over and over again eventually makes me want to scream. In order to get a break, I have to listen to some other catchy songs for a while. Then I can listen to the first song again and actually enjoy it more. I think for some people it's the same with parenthood. The title of the song stuck in one's head is "Mommy Mode". It's great, but to be in Mommy Mode ALL the time EVERY day can grate on some people's nerves. Switching to "Adults Only" for a while gives those people a break and allows them to enjoy "Mommy Mode" more.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 4:50pm
I get positive adult interaction from my coworkers. I LIKE talking about work. When at work, I get into a really good zone with them where chitchat about kids fades away and we talk about the work we are doing since much of it is done better when we brainstorm solutions to problems. I LIKE brainstorming solutions to problems with adults. I can't get that with dd. In a very minor way I can get it from other parents on the playground or at school. But the problems we are brainstorming about are always about what to do about this or that kid. And that gets real old after awhile. Sometimes I just want to work on a problem with other people that ISN'T about kids. And get paid for it.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 4:56pm
YES!!! I have two other posts that say esssentially the same thing. At work we can go for 8 SOLID HOURS without talking about kids. This just isn't possible at home with dh (though we do our darndest to slot some politics and movie reviews in there) nor is it possible at school fubnctions/volunteering or at get togethers that have kids. DH and I go to adult-only affairs from time to time, but that isn't enough to quench my thirst for extended non-kid talk and also these affairs often involve talking about our kids anyway because people don't feel confortable making chitchat about potentially controversial current event/political topics with people they don't know all that well.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 4:58pm
"Adult interaction" meaning intellectual pursuits, not just idle chit chat.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 5:01pm

The two men whose offices are the closest in proximity to me want to talk kids all the time.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 5:22pm

"In my opinion, the thing about having "adult interaction" isn't about simply speaking with other adults. It's about going for extended periods of time *without* speaking with children or about children. "


ITA. When I was a SAHM I started volunteering no so much

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 5:41pm
Some people really enjoy the stimulation/interaction of a work environment. For me, the type of adult interaction I get as a SAHM doesn't compare to the work environment. It's not a matter of being "equal" to the WOH spouse. Actually, what did you even mean by that comment???
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 5:58pm

just an excuse?

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