Having "Adult Interaction"

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Having "Adult Interaction"
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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 11:34am
So I mentioned this briefly in another thread but I've been meaning to ask about it. I'm a SAHM to 2 small toddlers. Personally, I don't *care* what other mothers choose to do. I've never inquired about "well, why do you WOH"... It's really none of my business nor do I care. I've been in several playgroups for my kiddos and sure enough, I get bombarded with comments from the WHOM about having "adult interaction". I mean seriously...what do they think I do all day?..Do WOHM think us SAHM just baby talk all day and are prisoners to our home and never speak with adults?.. It's funny, b/c a lot of times, they won't directly make that comment to me but will be passive aggressive...saying something like..."Oh I JUST had to go back to work to get the adult interaction"--waiting for me to respond like "oh yes, I agree, I miss the adult interaction"..... Almost like they are justifying why they work! If you are going to a job just to be around adults, that's pretty pathetic IMO. There are a million things I could get involved in that would be around adults, w/o having to go to work. I don't need work to fullfill my adult talk. I don't get it..Why is this always the first comment out of a WOHM? It's an indirect insult or putdown.

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Registered: 05-22-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:00pm

To me it isn't strictly about adult interaction, as it is about intellectual adult interaction.

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Registered: 05-22-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:02pm
Heh .. I WOH to be able to go to the restroom without the cat. ;)
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Registered: 05-22-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:03pm
See my earlier response to PNJ about the cat ... ;)
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:08pm

Seriously, if I want out of *mommy mode* I need more than a ten minute

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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:12pm
The irony of that sarcastic comment (not yours, the one you that started the subthread) is that it reminded me to go clean up the toilet paper confetti on the bathroom floor--placed there by two toddlers who were fighting over the toilet paper while I was trying to use the bathroom.


Edited 8/4/2008 6:18 pm ET by ka032006
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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:16pm

I can understand a WOHP wanting adult interaction, although I have heard it said in a way that it's clearly a put-down too.

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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:31pm

LOL, Randy often complains when he gets partnered with a "talker", after several years I said to DH,

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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:36pm
Like I said in my first comment, I really don't *care* the reasons why someone wants to WOH for their family. When I first meet someone and you start chatting, I will ask about their job and what they do (if it's sounds like something complex) or whatever. I don't say..."Oh, how wonderful for you that you get so much adult interaction"...it would never cross my mind to think that about WOH b/c I don't feel like I lack any adult interaction so it's not somehting I would question of someone that does work. It's just been lately..... the first comments from these moms who WOH is how wonderful it is to get adult interaction..NOTHING about their job or what they like about it, or anything of the sort. So it started making me defensive
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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:40pm

Don't you mean what you THINK they are missing out on?

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 6:49pm

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