Having an anxiety attack!!!

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Having an anxiety attack!!!
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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 6:44pm

OK, so I am a work-outside-the-home mom, desperately trying to start working inside the home. I just had to sign my son (The older of my 2 boys) up for summer camp, and after school program for the fall. He just turned 6 and is going into first grade. The program looks fantastic. There is a lot of fun activities, the teachers seem great, he's going to have a lot of fun. But I am totally freaking out! They go on field trips to a water park and an amusement park. Parents don't go to help supervise because they have a lot of teachers, they don't need chaperones. He'll be there from 7:30 in the morning when I drop him off, till 4PM when my husband picks him up. When he starts school in the fall, I have to have my sister drop him off, (because I have to be at work too early to drop off) then when school is out he'll be picked up by the after school program's bus (There are 2 attendants and a bus driver on the bus at all times) and my husband will pick him up from the after school program at 4pm. I know that they are always supervised, etc. but I can't help it!


A week ago, a 5 year old was molested at a local library in one of the book aisles while his mother was looking in another area of the library, there are other horror stories about what older kids in some schools do to younger kids on the bus when the attendants aren't looking.


I am so freaked out about this, and I know that I have to let go a little bit. I did my homework, the program looks good, the kids are separated by age groups and supervised at all times etc. So how do I start to feel better about this??!!!

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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 7:27pm

Agree this is about letting go, but its not about work at home/ work outside the home. Very sadly kids get molested. UGH. But it won't be a gaurantee if

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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 7:34pm

Thank you. You're right. I guess it's just really hard to trust other people with your babies. I just wish I could stop crying about it.

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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 8:17pm
Beats me.

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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 8:22pm
And why the heck would you even post that?

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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 8:25pm
Um....because I didn't know the answer to your question?

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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 8:45pm

I'd see if you could go on the first field trip to see how they handle things and get some peace of mind -- it sounds like a great program with lots of oversight. My dd is in a summer day camp program with 2 field trips a week and we've never had a problem -I've sent her off on field trips with our church to an amusement park and she was going on field trips in daycare as young as 4 and having a ball . But every one has their own comfort level so maybe you can go on one or two field trips to reassure yourself and feel better.

I'm sure he'll have a great summer!
Katie

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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 9:32pm
No, I know you're right. It's just that he's my oldest and I haven't had him into anything like this yet. I know he'll love it, and it will be good for him. As much as I want to protect him, I also don't want him to be that wierd kid whose parents wont let do anything. I want him to make friends and have a great summer. He's going to have fun. God help me if he ever wants to go to sleep away camp! I'll end up in the mental hospital!! Thank you guys for your kind words. I really needed that. I was beginning to think that this board was just a bunch of meanies! I might stick around for a bit after all.

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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 9:33pm
I trust our nanny and my DH. I havent used DC but we do send our twins to preschool (they are 4.5; have gone mornings 3x a week since they were 3) and I trust the people there too. Doesnt mean it doesnt worry me. But I don't cry about it. if you are feeling that down about it, you should change the situation. Life's too short.
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 6:06am

it's a fine line but remember that he'll take his cues from you -- if you're worried and anxious he likely will be too -- even if it's hard try to send him off with a big smile and a have fun! (then you can freak out in private) the day Liza went on the altar servers field tript o the amusement park it poured in the afternoon and I was a mess -- then I picked her up and she said it hadn't rained at all where she was -- so much for my worry! LOL

good luck!

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 6:28am
What kind of othercare does your son currently have and how did you adjust to that?

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