Here's an article that may get some discussion going
I never expected that having a child would make me happy. OTOH, I also did not expect it to make me as miserable as it did for a while.
On balance though, all the downsides mentioned have upsides as well, IMO. Not being able to have a coherent thought in your head because the short person is constantly talking, whining, crying or needing something, can really improve your ability to concentrate. Having your marriage implode, can lead to your rebuilding it on a more lasting basis. All in all, what I lost in peace of mind and joy, I gained in focus and determination.
"Societal ills aside, perhaps we also expect too much from the promise of parenting."
I think this may ring true for
Yeah, it's just that while the article started off as talking about childfree by choice, the studies that they cited didn't seem to make the distinction between those who are childfree by choice and those who are childfree not by choice. So the message got a little bit mixed.
But IMO, I think that if one conducted a study comparing couples who chose to have children (and succeeded in having them) to couples who chose not to have children (and succeeded in not having them), you'll find a higher percentage of unhappy campers in the first group.