Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:47am
eh, a little germ and a little dirt help the body's immune system. There is such a thing as "too clean".
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:52am
are you really certain that you are able to wash your kids hands everytime they touch their nose or mouth before they touch each other. i know there is no way i would be able to do that, i would do nothing but follow my kids around all day washing hands. and my kids spend alot of time playing together outside of my presence, so i wouldnt know what they had touched or spread.
Jennie
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:52am

***This one made me lol. There are billions of people in our supposedly "climate controlled world" who are absolutely unfamiliar with centralized heat/air.***

Right- I was being rather flippant there. I was more meaning our modernized and industrialized corner of it here in the States. For the most part, climate control seems to be the norm here.

***I would never have stripped dd down to her skin to bf.***

Mine were both born in the middle of cold northern winters. The house stays around 71 degrees year round. DD always wore a onesie as a newborn/infant and I either wrapped her in a blanket or held her snuggled in a sling for warmth. She had plenty of skin to skin contact that way- even in the dead of winter.

***She was born in the middle of winter in Sweden and always had at least 2 layers on in the house and several more outside. I'd guess that she got about 3 square inches of skin contact through bf for the first 6 months or so. Ds got a ton more skin contact in the first few months because he was born at the beginning of one of the hottest summers on record in Europe. He lived in a diaper and occasional onesie for the first 4 months or so, and I wore the bare minimum as well.***

Makes sense.

***Am I supposed to see differences between the two?***

That depends. The biggest differences in the issue of skin to skin contact are in preemies- kangaroo care as it's called has been proven to benefit preemies (and it's been taken to be viewed as beneficial to full term infants as well in the breastfeeding/attachment parenting communities for the most part. I don't doubt that there are benefits, but I'd say the visible benefits are more for the preemie crowd. Still- I'd say there's a difference between breastfeeding even without much skin contact or even bottle feeding while snuggled in Mom's (or dad's) arms (in the case of bottle feeding) and that of being with another caregiver. MHO of course.

Wytchy

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:57am
once again i think seperation anxiety is going to be based on the child. my older dd was pretty bad, my middle dd had it a little but it was when she was much older and i think it was because she is very shy, while my son who has sah with me has yet at 2.5 to show any signs of it.
Jennie
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:00am

How exactly does that work with two active children playing at a play group, park or etc?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:03am

Of course,

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:03am

You don't see a difference between loving them and not being with them and loving them and spending time with them? I mean, if your love goes with them, there ought to be no difference right? You should be able to just drop them off for weeks at a time while you go to Bali and then come home like you were never gone, right? Because if your love is with them that's all that really matters, right?

Wytchy

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:06am

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Of course I do. And you're being intentionally obtuse if you think that I said I didn't see a diffrence.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:06am
Sure they do. They're the ones claiming they'd be bored stiff or go crazy sah.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:07am

I'm not saying anything about transporting PNJ here. I'm merely saying I think I've got a better situation for having a SAHP/WOHP household. I can't imagine anyone doing that in an area where houses cost 600+k. Even if salaries aren't as high here as they are where PNJ is, our housing costs are SO much lower that it makes a HUGE difference. (If her median is 90k and our median is around 55-60k, I'd say it's an astronomical difference as far as ability to have a sahp household, don't you?)

Wytchy

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