Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Not me, I don't have the time to follow my children around making sure they wash their hands before germs come into their contact.
PumpkinAngel
That's ds1.
PumpkinAngel
I would ask the same thing. My experience was that my kids needed as much, if not more, of that loving presence as they got older.
Robin
Depends on the issue. If I know and have heard a large number of women express a given opinion, I'd say 'many women' might share said opinion... Wouldn't you?
Wytchy
Right- but was she speaking of *you*? From what I recall, she was speaking of herself primarily, with a nod to the fact that many (not all, but a good number it seems) women *would* prefer to be home with their children. If you aren't one of them- that still doesn't change the point that many women *are*.
Wytchy
So it's normal for your kids. What's the point? I don't want it to be normal for *my* kids. I don't want them to experience that. Not at their young ages. You weren't speaking only of your own children when you said "If you had started your children in full time othercare at 3 months of age, they wouldn't know the difference vis a vis separation anxiety. They would view being separated 40+ hours a week from both parents as totally normal." Even if you intended to mean a general 'you' rather than a personal 'you'- you're still referring to situations other than your own there.
***Separation anxiety ebbs and flows - it's not a constant state. Kids experience it for a few days or a week, then they get over it. If regular separation is routine for them, that is.***
That all depends on the child. I know more than one child in ft daycare who has experienced separation anxiety since basically day 1. (It's a common theme in the parenting group I'm active in actually.) So I still disagree- not all kids get over it or deal with it as well as you think they all do.
Wytchy
"So it's normal for your kids. What's the point? I don't want it to be normal for *my* kids. I don't want them to experience that. Not at their young ages."
Your kids would have survived it, likely without any major trauma.
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