Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 1:57pm
this is kind of what i have noticed with my kids, and i am sure it is not universal, just my experience. i have a 15, a 7 and a 2.5 year old. my 15 year old requires as much time as the 2.5 year old. it is a different kind of time and obviously it occurs at different times. i can play trains with my little one for 15 minutes and he is perfectly happy, have you ever tried to pick out the perfect outfit to wear to the winter formal in 15 minutes with a 15 year old girl - it aint gonna happen, unfortunately. i can have a discussion with my 7 year old about a topic and she is pretty much off to something else in a short amount of time - it is much more time consuming to have a conversation with a 15 year old about say the responsibilities of driving (which unfortunately we are having alot of these days) :)
i really dont feel my 2.5 year old needs me to be right there to know that his mom loves him. he certainly knows his dad loves him and his dad is gone before he gets up in the morning and doesnt return until around 6 in the evening.
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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:01pm
Good point.
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Registered: 01-12-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:02pm

I would be very uncomfortable with any teacher kissing my child. Very inappropriate.

Robin

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:03pm
And, since love isn't an *object*, separation anxiety has ZILCH to do with missing love. It has to do with missing a physical presence of a parent or other object.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:04pm
Yes it is difficult. While the guys that I contract to build for me are great, I still have to keep an eye on them. I am the one that homeowners come to with any issues or questions when their home is being built. Since I am in charge it is my responsiblity to make sure things are being done correctly and efficient.

 

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:04pm
Your description of the classroom fit ds' K classroom to a tee. I don't think its unheard of or unusual in any way.
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:06pm
and some families have horrible experiences with repeat illnesses and have a sahm. all three of my sisters kids had so many ear infections that they all had to have tubes put in, yet she was a sahm and the rarely went anywhere but to church and the grocery store. work status doesnt determine if kids get sick or not, as much as you would like to paint it that way.
Jennie
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:07pm
Not like we're talking tongue here ...
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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:11pm

What do you suppose it is about the *phyical presence* that the child is missing? Could it be the love that they get from that particluar object or person, when present?

IME, the separation anxiety arises from the absence of an object or person with whom the child has formed a loving bond. So I say, yes, love has a whole lot to do with it. If not, why is there rarely separation anxiety that is not attributed to a loved object or person?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:11pm
But among the three of your closely spaced children, that means missing years upon years of the workplace.

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