Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:12pm
and i can understand that at 1 and 2 but what about when they are 2 and 3 or 3 and 4. and there are those of us who have kids more spaced apart. when my 7 year old gets home from school, especially now during the winter, she and the 2 year old head up to her room and it is not uncomman for me to not see them for an hour or more. they play alot of school and i am amazed at what all the little guy is learning from his sister.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-12-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:12pm

I didn't think we were. Still inappropriate.

Robin

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:13pm

"work status doesnt determine if kids get sick or not, as much as you would like to paint it that way."

Maybe not work status, but attendance in a group daycare setting certainly does. Do you think the majority of kids in a group daycare setting have a SAHM or WOHM?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:13pm

Do you still do this? Seems like a primarily male dominated field in the little I know of it (I deal with technology companies...).

How did you get into this field? I have a friend who runs the largest waste mgt business in Australia. She got into it via family....Totally male dominated and she kicks but:)

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:16pm

I'd agree with that. What I disagree with is the idea that just because a child is in daycare from day 1 that they will somehow be able to avoid this perfectly normal developmental milestone. Some kids will deal with it more than others- some will seem to not deal with it at all- but the bottom line is that whether or not they are in othercare from the beginning has very little, if anything, to do with that.

Wytchy

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:16pm

You really can't get so bent out of shape when I'm simply discussing your own words.

For instance, in the past you have called yourself a substitute teacher at your DD's school:

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(From your post # 16466.611)

Those are your words, not mine. I'm sorry if I...read them, I guess! LOL.

And the same with your DH in your post above. Either he works the hours needed for the job whether or not you have downsized your hours to "sah". If his hours changed because you sah, then he wasn't doing what he "needed" in the first place. But thank you for then adding the additional facts that you have moved, he has a *NEW* job and that is actually the reason he works more hours ~ it never had a single thing to do with your new status as "sahp." Why weren't you honest in the first place? Why bring sah into it? Again, I'm going by what you post. Sorry if that's a problem for you.

And yes I'm amazed how little you seem to like sah. I'd love to understand why you sah if you don't believe in it. Even when I woh, I believed in my work, my career. I'm certain the wohms here believe they are benefitting their families by woh. You don't see sah as beneficial to your children. If I thought sah was not benefitting my family, I wouldn't do it. I'd find a great daycare and fill my days with art classes and volunteer work and have a much easier life. But I know sah benefits my children. And I love it.

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:16pm

True, I just place more value on the time than the money.

IME, the truth is, financial security is a wonderful thing. However, having dual WOHP is not the only way to get there.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:16pm
you are kidding right - what could possibly be inapproriate about a k or 1st grade teacher kissing a child good bye or when they are sad, hurt or just need a little tlc. i am so thankful my kids have had warm loving teachers not robots.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:21pm
hey, something we agree on :) i think it really depends on the personality of the child. i do think that parents can make it worse, depending on how they react to it.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:23pm
90-100 a week? Not even 2 FTWOHP work that many hours. Somehow I doubt both parents working FT outside the home in this situation would even be able to make ends meet with a 90-100 work week. I can understand that a SAHP working 20 hours per week in order to supplement the family income so that the WOHP doesn't have to work 60 hrs per week. I can honestly say that I would never have my spouse work 90-100 hours for me to SAH. Do you know anyone that has a SAHP that the WOHP works 90-100, or is this just a random question?

 

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