Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Jennie
I didn't think we were. Still inappropriate.
Robin
"work status doesnt determine if kids get sick or not, as much as you would like to paint it that way."
Maybe not work status, but attendance in a group daycare setting certainly does. Do you think the majority of kids in a group daycare setting have a SAHM or WOHM?
Do you still do this? Seems like a primarily male dominated field in the little I know of it (I deal with technology companies...).
How did you get into this field? I have a friend who runs the largest waste mgt business in Australia. She got into it via family....Totally male dominated and she kicks but:)
I'd agree with that. What I disagree with is the idea that just because a child is in daycare from day 1 that they will somehow be able to avoid this perfectly normal developmental milestone. Some kids will deal with it more than others- some will seem to not deal with it at all- but the bottom line is that whether or not they are in othercare from the beginning has very little, if anything, to do with that.
Wytchy
You really can't get so bent out of shape when I'm simply discussing your own words.
For instance, in the past you have called yourself a substitute teacher at your DD's school:
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(From your post # 16466.611)
Those are your words, not mine. I'm sorry if I...read them, I guess! LOL.
And the same with your DH in your post above. Either he works the hours needed for the job whether or not you have downsized your hours to "sah". If his hours changed because you sah, then he wasn't doing what he "needed" in the first place. But thank you for then adding the additional facts that you have moved, he has a *NEW* job and that is actually the reason he works more hours ~ it never had a single thing to do with your new status as "sahp." Why weren't you honest in the first place? Why bring sah into it? Again, I'm going by what you post. Sorry if that's a problem for you.
And yes I'm amazed how little you seem to like sah. I'd love to understand why you sah if you don't believe in it. Even when I woh, I believed in my work, my career. I'm certain the wohms here believe they are benefitting their families by woh. You don't see sah as beneficial to your children. If I thought sah was not benefitting my family, I wouldn't do it. I'd find a great daycare and fill my days with art classes and volunteer work and have a much easier life. But I know sah benefits my children. And I love it.
True, I just place more value on the time than the money.
IME, the truth is, financial security is a wonderful thing. However, having dual WOHP is not the only way to get there.
Jennie
Jennie
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