Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Umm, I "lumped them together" because separation anxiety is *based* in part on the child's development of object permanance.
Here's a blurb from keepkidshealthy.com on the topic. You might find it interesting...
http://www.keepkidshealthy.com/development/separation_anxiety.html
"The onset and resolution of separation anxiety requires the achievement of three developmental milestones: attachment to a care giver, realization of object permanence, and development of trust. Here's how this works: a 6 month old infant is not “spoiled” just because she cries when Mom leaves the room or is handed to someone else. Instead, her crying represents her developing sense of attachment to her Mom and Dad. (I used the terms “Mom” and “Dad,” but I really mean whoever is the primary care giver.) If she did not have a sense of attachment, she would not be concerned when they left the room."
Do you still think separation anxiety has nothing to do with love and object permanance?
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Wow, you are ever so much faster than I was.
PumpkinAngel
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My DH works 96 hours one week (4days x 24hour shifts) and he works 48 hours the next week (2days x 24 hours). He is scheduled to work 144 hours in a two week pay period. He would work those hours whether I WOH or SAH, because that's the fire departments schedule. So yes, there are families that do deal with hours every other week exceeding 90+ hours.
Julia
Julia
Proud Mommy of Macey and Reece
I think in most of those cases, the WOHP would probably work similar hours regardless.
Can you read?
I did NOT say that seperation anxiety had nothing to do with object permanence. I said they weren't the same. In fact, I even said they were related. Here .. I'll quote myself "I dont' really see them as the same (although somewhat related)."
What I did say was that object permanence has nothing to do with love. And you haven't shown me anything to counter that yet.
I also said that I don't think it really is the love they're missing. That it *could* be, but that it wasn't necessarily it.
So, to answer your question ... "Do you still think separation anxiety has nothing to do with love and object permanance?" No, becuase I NEVER thought that.
Well, considering we are on a debate board, contentious I will give you since, well we are on a debate board.
PumpkinAngel
Oh not back to the old *if people just planned well they could ALL have SAHPs* nonsense.
Heard it. 1,000,000 times. Still not true. Still patronizing to those who have dual WOHPs. Still reeks of "Neener neener neener. We plan better than youuuuuu."
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