Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:27pm

Thank you very much. :)

Wytchy

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:33pm

No need to get bent out of shape!

"What I did say was that object permanence has nothing to do with love. And you haven't shown me anything to counter that yet."

FTR, you said "And, since love isn't an *object*, separation anxiety has ZILCH to do with missing love. It has to do with missing a physical presence of a parent or other object."

and you also said "I also said that I don't think it really is the love they're missing. That it *could* be, but that it wasn't necessarily it."

Where does your first statement one say it *could be* love? I thought ZILCH meant something else???

Anyway, the article I posted specifically stated that ***attachment to care giver*** and ***development of trust*** are developmental milestones necessary for the onset of separation anxiety."

Do you think that love and attachment/trust are unrelated? Is that why you think "separation anxiety has ZILCH to do with missing love" ???

It doesnt add up that way to me. Nope, I'll stand by my assessment that separation anxiety is very much related to missing the *love* their parent or caregiver shows them.

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:34pm
Nobody should have a SAHP if that's not what they want for their family.
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:35pm
i can see that at a high school or middle school level, perhaps even in the upper elementary grades but k and 1st grade if a peck on the head makes the child feel better what is inappropriate about that.
Jennie
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Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:35pm

It depends on the daycare/school. My ds went to a Montessori preschool. I would say there were about equal numbers of WOH parents and SAH parents whose children attended. And when illnesses spread, the children with SAH parents got sick at the same rate as those with WOH parents.

Susan

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:36pm
Very true.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:39pm
Except if othercare is the normal routine, you just keep going with the routine and they get through the developmental milestone.

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:41pm

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Aha. That was in the post before I clarified, when I was equating (upon your context) sepration anxiety with object permanence. I fixed that later, after I did what I should have done in the first place and separated the two concepts.

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Do you think the child can separate the love from the parent? If not, then how can you know its about missing the love rather than missing the physical presence of the parent?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:42pm
That seems like a lot of stress just to go to the playground.

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:43pm
And this has what to do with defending your superior attitude?

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