Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
2102
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> 

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:55pm
No, that's not at all what her post meant.

<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:55pm

Oh sure there is. But if there is *no* difference- then that's what I'm saying. If there *is* a difference, as I've said, then certainly there is a wide berth of middle ground. If there's no difference, then one would be able to drop the kid off with the sitter for a week and head to the tropics without even being noticed.

Wytchy

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:57pm
Of course they rarely wanted down - they were used to being in the sling all of the time!!!!!

<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:58pm

That's not what I said, try reading

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:58pm
You can place your own personal implications here all you want doesn't mean a thing. Unless I see her say just that then it stands she wasn't talking about any WOHP. You can view your situation is that you don't miss out on their childhood. She however views WOH 40 hrs per week as missing out. Her personal situation is just that...HERS.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 3:59pm

dd practically lived in the baby björn for the first few months.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-09-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:00pm

<>

Yes, I do. My DD is 10 years old and in the fifth grade. I'm a SAHM and I have my 2 year old DS home with me everyday. Heck my DD unwillingly passes colds/flu to her brother at least three times a year. Also I went to the grocery store a few weeks ago, after DS had the flu. I'm pushing him along, grabbing some food off the shelf, and I look over at him, and he has his mouth wrapped around the handle on the grocery cart. YUCK! I noticed the store provides hand-wipes where the carts are, needless to say, I use them now. All children get sick sometimes, having a SAHP doesn't lessen the chance at all.

Julia

Julia

Proud Mommy of Macey and Reece

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:01pm
The bottom line here is that you are deciding what she is implying. Otherwise you wouldn't have asked her those questions. Read what she writes and leave it at that. If she spouts out that WOHP miss out on their children's childhoods I could see where you would ask her about that. She didn't say anything like that. You want to know why this continues? You are replying.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:01pm
I can agree that separation anxiety might be less for a child who is used to being in othercare FT. If separation anxiety has it's roots in *attachment to a caregiver* and the child has formed an attachment to ther other-caregiver similar to a parental attachment, then they may not be as apt to feel abandoned.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:02pm

I gather your major was not in English literature, because it doesn't take too much literary license to read her posts more broadly than you are doing.


It's different than if I say, "I'm not willing to WOH unless I make $100,000 per year." Why is this different?

<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> 

Pages