Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:02pm

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That can be done dh and I have left the children with a sitter and have gone, not to the tropics (sigh) but on vacation without the kids.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:03pm
No, I do not think a young infant or toddler separate the love from the parent. I think to them they are a package deal.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:03pm

Oh I agree- but I feel that if one doesn't *have* to force the separation, then it's a kinder and gentler (and therefore better IMO at those early ages) to not do so (force the issue). IMO children are only little for a VERY short period of time- why *not* SAH and enjoy them if one at all can? Employment will still be there in some form or another when they're older. (Not saying everyone has to or should SAH- just saying that all things being equal- I think it's ideal if one *can* assuming one wants to.)

Wytchy

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:04pm
Well then if I state...I don't WOH because I couldn't raise my kids. Doesn't imply anything pertaining to you or your situation. Doesn't make my statement any less true for my situation.

 

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:05pm
My superior attitide? Excuse me? A WOHM can claim that they are providing a *better* financial situation for their child via dual WOH, but a SAH cant offer their children the *same* financial situation via planning pre-children without having a superior attitude. Hmmmmmm. Sounds like a double standard to me.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:06pm

"IMO children are only little for a VERY short period of time- why *not* SAH and enjoy them if one at all can? Employment will still be there in some form or another when they're older."


Because many people have more than two children, or have children more than only 12 months apart, and therefore might have very little children in the household for years upon years?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:06pm
Good point.

 

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:07pm

It *is* a reason (one of many) for *me* to SAH. If I don't want to force my children into separation that neither of us desires, then I certainly don't have to. It's also one reason why at least some other women do or consider SAH. And personally, I want more for my children than just to have them 'survive' daycare. MHO.

Wytchy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:07pm

You think you have the same financial situation as dual WOHPs, generally?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:08pm
My children richly enjoyed their othercare, overall.

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