Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:19pm

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The only way your little ones are less likely to get sick than daycare (group setting) children, are to keep them locked up and never go outside, or allow anyone near them. The truth is kids get sick by playing at the playground, by going grocery shopping with mom, by friends or families coming over to visit. If your children are exposed to others (which I hope they are) trust me, they are just as likely to get sick as daycare children. I mean what really is the difference of a SAHM taking her children to the park to play amongst other children, or the WOHM who also has her children playing amongst others at the daycare facility?

Julia

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:20pm
and i am equally glad that ours, it would appear, does not have that as a guideline.
Jennie
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Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:21pm
Oh, come on now, you know the riposte for that one. No dc situation is a good fit for *all* kids. You SAH's are all about tailoring kids' experiences to suit their unique traits and temperaments, right? Well, sometimes dc has to be handled the same way.
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Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:21pm

BTDT, my recovering from my c-section was beastly and add a two-story house?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:21pm

I grew up in rural PA. We had *lots* of snow days LOL!

Wytchy

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:23pm
Then can you say, with any certainty, that it is the love the child is missing and not the physical presence?
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Registered: 01-12-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:23pm

I see what you are saying. My personal experience was that my dd, who was exposed to all the germs that her older brother brought home from school but was not in othercare, still got sick more often the year that she started preschool than she had up until that point. Same child, same immune system.

Robin

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:26pm
I seem to remember that the stats showed that household income for dual wohps was lower than those of sahps.
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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:26pm
Considering our family's income is *well* above the median family income for our area, I can reason that we are at *least* on par with the dual WOH families.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:29pm

***-- It only took us 2 years to conceive and have our first child***

5yrs and a miscarriage here. Along with gestational diabetes, threatened preeclampsia and an emergency c-section with my first. With my second it was a nightmarish pregnancy and a scary ending where we were threatened with a *very* high risk of stillbirth which necessitated a *very* unexpected Christmas Day delivery (another section obviously).

***--By that time, I'd already invested 3 years in law school and 9 years of working into my career. It wouldn't be responsible of me to throw all of that time and effort away to SAH while the kids were, say, under age 3.***

True. I got married at 19 and we planned from the beginning for my SAH. If I had already invested 3yrs in law school before I met/married my DH I'd probably feel much differently.

***--I was raised by a very loving and involved SAHM who told me there's more to life than raising babies, and that I had to be able to take care of myself (without any man's help) financially and every other which way.***

;) So was I. And I certainly can ;)

***--I'm not at all a "big baby/kid person." I love mine, but I'm not very big on anyone else's, to be honest.***

So- and don't answer if you aren't comfortable- but... Why did you have kids if you're not really a kid *person*? If you don't really care for kids in general- how did you know you'd feel differently about your own? Or weren't they planned? (Again- if it's too personal please feel free not to answer.) Honestly I don't mean anything by the question- it's not mean to be offensive in the least- I'm just curious....

Wytchy

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