Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 5:36pm

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I am also not a real "baby/toddler" person. I loved taking care of my kids (and always wanted them) but I do not like taking care of other poeple's kids. When I started nursing school, a lot of people assumed I would do pediatric nursing. No way! I did one clinic rotation at a Children's Hospital and could not wait to be done. It was awful delaing with the babies and toddlers. I found the older kids easier to deal with. I never seem to know how to talk to babies or toddlers. I do *not* baby talk ever to my kids at any age. I have no idea why I am like this but I guess it is a erpsonality thing.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 5:56pm
That's not what it implies. I know we've been through this before but... if your *goal* is to have a SAHP and live off income, with proper planning it can be done. If it's not your goal, you won't plan for it. It doesn't imply that people with a SAHP are better planners, it implies that they had a different plan.
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Registered: 09-08-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 6:02pm

"Most moms of close siblings such as mine have told me that they'd never dream of doing so without a helper and I tend to agree- too easy to lose sight of a child when both are so small and yet so mobile.) "


You don't take your kids places by yourself?

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 6:12pm
"purelled to within an inch of their lives " ... LOL!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 6:13pm

Unfortunately, that's par for the course when you study human subjects. It would be nearly impossible for a group of children to be identical in every way. The theory is that those differences would be accounted for by the size of the sample. That's why the studies try to make a general trend analysis, rather than focus on a particular case.

Susan

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 6:42pm

Nah. Because the posters here don't say "We wouldn't have been able to SAH either, if we had not planned to." Instead, they say "We wouldn't have been able to SAH either, if we hadn't planned as well."

The first sentence alludes to a different plan. The second alludes to "better" planning.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 7:42pm
Asking for clarification when clarification is needed isn't an issue. I just don't understand how that needed clarifying. Then again I don't read tones or implications in any post here. I try to take them for what they write.

 

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 7:47pm
I grew up on the plains of northern IL, and spent 3 years with the military camping on mountaintops in the Alps and along the Czech border in the wintertime. I don't see how the mere existence of snow equates to "too dangerout for kids to attend school".

Karen


" says, "Navy makes a very strong statement." I guess so. It says, "I'm boring." Or, "I'd like this job here at the bank.""


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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 8:41pm
I feel it is the *physical presence* of their *loving parent* that they are missing. If ones assumes the child isnt differentiating between the two then one would assume that they miss *both* wouldnt they?
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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:26pm

Oh, I just thought that you wanted to *dispute* the fact since it was *me* that posted.

So, based on what exactly do you dispute the fact...personal experience? Because the statistics certainly do show that children who are in "out of home childcare" get sick more often than children who dont. At least that's what the CDC says....

"4-7,000,000 child care-related infections/year among 7,000,000 children under age 5 in out-of-home child care 2-3 times the risk of infectious diseases (diarrhea, respiratory disease, otitis media) compared with children not in out-of-home care"

http://www.nfid.org/factsheets/childcare.html

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