Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:28pm
Thank you.
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:29pm
I explained it in a post to Jennie (I think it was Jennie).
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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:31pm

Of course it's a better plan. A better plan than one in which I cannot SAH. The *key* is it's about *me* not *you* or anyone else's planning or financial status or *anything*...

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:52pm
Ok, then I'll try another approach. Do you have any data to prove your dispute of the point? Or are you just going to go with not liking the way the studies are done to back you up?
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:56pm

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Nope. I'm not trying to prove it. Although, since we're talking about proof. the studies don't *prove* anything either. They show a correlation; not a cause and effect.

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It isn't just that I don't like the way they are done. They way they are done cannot be used to show cause and effect. Only correlation. I don't think correlation is always strong enough evidence to prove a point.

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 11:13pm
Exactly. I can show a corrrelation between the dwindling numbers of pirates (globally) to the increase in global warming (http://www.venganza.org/), but I defy anyone to start claiming therein lies proof that decreasing the numbers of pirates in the world causes global warming.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 12:19am
i dont necessarily believe that is true......just like with other things you have to find the daycare that is the right fit for your particular child. my older dd started montessori when she was 3, in the 6 years that she was there 99% of the kids thrived but it seemed each year there was always 1 or 2 kids who the program just was not a good fit for and their parents moved them elsewhere where they did fine - for those kids the daycare was the issue. i never put my middle dd in montessori, not because i dont love the program but because knowing her i know it would not be a good fit for her.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 12:21am
i feel like i have had little kids for the past 15 years.....:)
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 12:34am

i dont see how sah prevents the parent from at least at times having to force the seperation. with all of my kids there have been things i have needed/wanted to do that was inappropriate for them to attend, and with each additional child there have been more things.

i have immensely enjoyed my children since i became a sahm, but no more than i did when i was a wohm.

here is where i part company with most of the sahm's on this board, to the point that one nut thinks i hate sah, i dont feel sah in and of itself is ideal, and i feel the same way about woh. i dont believe that there is one thing i do as a sahm that i didnt do as a wohm. i do things at different times, and i spend more time (although not nearly as much as i would have imagined) doing certain things. i really dont think my kids care is they go to the library on wednesday morning (in the case of the little one now) or on saturday morning. and i dont know how many hours of playing trains it really takes for a kid to be satisfied, but i know how long my patience to play trains is, and it didnt change when i became a sahm. if i were to go back to work tomorrow the biggest stress i think i would encounter would be how to chauffer kids around. so maybe i sah because it makes chauffering the kids around easier - im just kidding there.
Jennie

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 12:43am
i dont see why that would have anything to do with them not wanting to take care of their kids - of course i am assuming they are taking care of their kids about 75%of the time.
Jennie

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