Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:35am

***you are kidding right - what could possibly be inapproriate about a k or 1st grade teacher kissing a child good bye or when they are sad, hurt or just need a little tlc. i am so thankful my kids have had warm loving teachers not robots.***

Like many things, the few bad ones ruin it for the many good ones... There have unfortunately been cases where teachers have inappropriately touched students etc. that have ruined it for the many who were just being caring loving people. Therefore- in many areas touching students is frowned upon and can incur disciplinary action.

Wytchy

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:38am
ita S2LB.

 

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:38am

LOL ;) Yeah- she's actually very good at diversionary tactics. Gotta say that for her at least :)

Wytchy

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:40am

And do you think that these high-powered career men would be any different were their wives to WOH?

Wytchy

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:45am
In at least one case, yes. I think that particular man is feeling under a lot of pressure to maintain a certain income/security and would welcome some relief in the form of his wife working. I'm sure that in many cases the husband would continue to work insane hours regardless of his wife's work status.
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:45am

Again, why do you need to understand why someone asks a question?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:49am

It was PJM who said it (that kids in daycare from the beginning will just think it's normal and not deal with the seperation anxiety *because* they think it's normal and don't know any different).

As for the idea that kids of sahp's not experiencing that- I have to disagree and laugh at the same time. (And wonder who was trying to make that point because I totally missed it) Once again- just because a sahp is a sahp doesn't mean that the kids are attached at the hip 24/7. My DD experiences SA when I do something in another room, when I put her down in the *same* room, when I go out and DH spends time with them, when they were in the childcare center at the gym (which is now a past tense after this last illness we picked up there- influenza or RSV-6. Even the pediatrician thinks we ought to keep them away from group care settings for now LOL!) Anyway- bottom line is that one doesn't have to drop them off every day for 8hrs (or whatever) or have them constantly present- there is a middle ground. Some people just feel that if they can minimize the trauma of seperation anxiety when one can that it's a kinder and gentler and therefore 'better' approach for them and their children.

Wytchy

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:52am
>>I'm sure that in many cases the husband would continue to work insane hours regardless of his wife's work status.<<
i agree...and i think there are some who are partial to the opinion that if both spouses woh, that the one spouse wouldn't have to work such insane, ung*dly hours. so not the case with my family......dh's chosen field and position requires him to work 50, 60, sometimes 80 hours a week. that would not change if i woh.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 10:02am

I have a pondering question for you and just

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 10:19am

I guess considering the source, that's a compliment?


PumpkinAngel

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